Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Dealing with emotional content ( Was cats: Wow!)

[Michael D (ohanamd]

> In the eyes of the rest of the group the cat owner appears to be the one
> with the problem.  To resolve the conflict, the rest of the community
needs
> to own their emotions about having a member choose to leave.

Most people in most situations tend to think the other person is the one
with the problem.  Therefore, the people who don't have cats or who have
cats and agree with the rule will think the one(s) who don't agree have the
problem.  However, the one(s) who don't agree will think the people who want
the rule are the ones with the problem.

One of the characteristics of growing consciousness is when people begin to
look at themselves rather than at other people in dealing with problems.
"What's my input into this?  How am I contributing to this not being
resolved?"

That's also a key to resolving conflict in a way that works for everyone.

Namaste,
Michael


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