Cohousing-L Mailing List: giving and taking - child care vs. cats

[C2pattee (C2pattee]

In a message dated 10/2/01 9:47:45 PM Eastern Daylight Time, cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org writes:
> From: "Ruddick, T.R." <RUDDICK [at] edison.cc.oh.us>
> To: "'cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org'" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
> Date: Tue, 2 Oct 2001 17:35:02 -0400 
> Subject: [C-L]_RE: C-L giving and taking
> Reply-To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
>
> Rosa wrote:
>
> >Yikes.  This kind of response seems unnecessarily attacking.  Molly was
> >talking about her feelings, and being honest about sometimes feeling
> >resentful about social costs.  I didn't hear her advocating for people to
> >run out and protest property taxes!
>
> <<snipped>>
>
> I thought we all talk about our thoughts and feelings here (what else is
> there?); if we disagree, we ought to be willing to share our views!  So far
> no one has engaged in name-calling, nor has anyone intentionally
> misrepresented anyone else's views, have they?  So there's no attack, just
> dispute.  And I enjoy a good one!
>
> And BTW, this issue [childcare-to pay or not to pay] is more weighty than cats, don't you agree?



Actually, in the cohousing setting, I think cats are the weightier issue, because they are a more difficult problem to solve than child care payments.  I know of at least two situations where residents left cohousing because they could not accept the group's cat policy (one demanded outdoor cats, the other hated them).  On the other hand, the application of a small amount of money, just a miniscule proportion of an entire coho budget, will make the childcare problem go away (well, assuming you can find the right  recipient of the $ to do the child care :)  ).

  Christine Pattee
Greater Hartford CT Cohousing
c2pattee [at] aol.com