Cohousing-L Mailing List: visiting cohousings and variations

[Casey Morrigan (cjmorr]

I'd say that my suggestion to visit and get into depth with a community did 
have to do with the "expectation compared to reality" theme.  But I 
wouldn't say that "any variation from what has normally been done are 
questionable" was part of my message.  It would be more true to say that 
I'm a big fan of variation--I find it hard (though rewarding) to build 
community and real relationships, so however people try to make it happen, 
I say go for it. There are lots of ways to do that. Try it on.

Dreamers help get cohousing started, so we need dreamers and visionaries 
all along our path. Holding the dream and the hope while not getting all 
p---ed off over how reality intruded, eg, how your fellow cohousers don't 
fufill how you thought community would be - now there's a cohousing skill.

Casey Morrigan
Two Acre Wood
Sebastopol California


> -----Original Message-----
> From: Diane Simpson [mailto:coho [at] theworld.com]
> Sent: Sunday, July 06, 2003 6:59 PM
> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> Subject: Re: [C-L]_RE: sweat equity
>
>
>
> Hi TR et al,
>
> Yeah, I think you're being a little touchy. It was good advice that
> Elizabeth live in a community first, although I would say that's not
> the ONLY piece of advice I would give. I would suggest that
> she travel
> around and try to visit different types of communities and
> talk to the
> people in them before making a decision about whether or not this is
> the right thing for her to pursue. I think that was one of the most
> beneficial things that I did after two failed cohousing groups.
>
> --Diane Simpson
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> On Sun Jul 6, 2003  4:26:33 PM US/Eastern "TR Ruddick"
> <truddick [at] earthlink.net> wrote:
>
> and one of the replies was:
>
> > From: "Rob Sandelin" <floriferous [at] msn.com>
> >
> > I agree with a previous post to Elizabeth Cobb, you would benefit a
> > great
> > deal from  actually living in a community first [edit]
> > One of things I would pass on, is that any one particular
> community is
> > unlikely to encompass all of what you seem to want and
> believe, and by
> > visiting several, you will find many parts, in many places
> which you
> > can
> > draw ideas and inspirations from.
>
> Now, am I being overly touchy here, or does it seem that there's a
> teensy
> bit of attitude here?  Having only reached the early stages
> of actually
> doing cohousing, I admit that I don't know the details from
> experience,
> and
> there is probably much to be learned from hearing and sharing
> with those
> who've actually completed the process.  But time and again I get a
> message
> from current residents of cohousing that goes "until you've really
> lived in
> one, you can't really know what it's like or what you want
> from it--and
> any
> variations on what has normally been done are questionable at best."
>
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