Cohousing-L Mailing List: RE: consequences in community

[Casey Morrigan (cjmorr]

One thing I have noticed - is that I don't really learn from shaming and 
blaming, whether it is a coho consequence or something else. We have gotten 
better in our community at always trying the neutral, one-on-one 
conversation as a first action in seeking a change. This has worked so many 
times!! And has avoided the need for group-level "consequences."

But there is a chronic issue that we haven't solved in our community, we 
shall call it [to maintain confidentiality] the messies vs. the cleanies, 
and really, I just don't know what we can do about it. If we were a 
standard condominium, the board would assess a fee and clean "it" up. Since 
I fall in the "cleanies" camp, I just nurture a daily resentment. I'm 
pretty stuck right there. Further ideas?

Casey M.
Two Acre Wood
Sebastopol, CA

> -----Original Message-----
> From: ilyse simon [mailto:ilysefood [at] yahoo.com]
> Sent: Wednesday, November 30, 2005 7:07 AM
> To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org
> Subject: [C-L]_ consequences in community
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> Hi,
> I'm researching consequences in various cohos. What happens
> in your community when a member doesn't do her work
> requirement, or breaks a community rule, or repeatedly
> doesn't pick up dog poop, or fails to pay an assessment. I'm
> on a committee writing Rules & Regs for Ulster county Coho
> and we need some ideas. After conflict resolution is ignored
> or fails, what to you do then?
> Thank you,
> Ilyse Simon
> Governance, Ulster County Coho
>
>
> Ilyse Simon RD
> Nutrition Therapist
> 845 338 3876
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> but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand,
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