Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Chris Kemp's Response to Rules & Regs Violation

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

On Apr 15, 2006, at 5:05 AM, Lion Kuntz wrote:

> A proper question is why was the orginal description so distorted? Why
> weren't both sides put plainly before the group before asking how to
> obtain compulsion of a rule, which on further alanalysis was grossly
> misdescribed?

Whoaaaaaaaa Nelly! We have two descriptions. Who decides which one is 
"correct"?

This is a perfect example of the two opposing viewpoints that govern 
actions in cohousing every day.

1. We have agreements that were very carefully thought out and agreed 
to by all members and should be followed until changed. If they are 
outmoded, they need to be revised.

2. As long as I'm doing what I think is reasonable, the agreements 
don't apply. Other people don't follow them. They no longer make any 
sense.

What is important is that communities revisit their agreements 
regularly and ensure (as much as is possible) that everyone agrees 
which belief is to prevail. Obviously, in this instance, there is no 
agreement.

Sharon
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Sharon Villines
Building Community: A Guide to Creating New Neighborhoods
http://www.buildingcommunity.info