Cohousing-L Mailing List: An Apology

[Ann Zabaldo (zabaldo]

Hello all --

Last week I responded to an email posted by Eris Weaver regarding a woman
asking about parking space for her RV in Eris's future cohousing community.

I deeply regret posting my reply first to the whole list.  The appropriate
action would have been to respond first to Eris off line.  I might have
learned something useful instead of jumping on my righteous bandwagon.

Please note:  I'm not saying we shouldn't have disagreements or differences
of opinions.  

What I am saying is that we should be considerate of other people's feelings
and values and not "call them out" in a public forum like email with out
first trying to reach them privately.  I really dislike reading email where
people are insensitive.  And then in a heartbeat I was myself insensitive.

Being considerate of other people's feelings or values was what I was trying
to say in my reply about the woman and her RV question and then I turn
around and I was not at all considerate of Eris's feelings.

I've called Eris and apologized directly to her.  She was extremely gracious
and forgiving.

And now I apologize to you on this list for my poor 'netiquette behavior and
to those of you I have hurt whether directly or indirectly by my former
email.


Ann Zabaldo
Takoma Village 
Washington, DC