Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: conflict resolution

[Catya Belfer-Shevett (catya]

> Imagine a conflict has arisen in your community.  You have tried all the
> methods for resolving it using your internal resources, but the conflict is
> still at a place that you as a community are not happy with.  Would you turn
> to outside resources?  If so, the specific resource you would use is only
> one of my questions, and the only answer I've received so far is to call in
> one of the well known and experienced conflict management professionals.
> That is good information as far as it goes, and I appreciate those who took
> the time to send on those suggestions.  My other questions are:
> 1) Are there other resources you would use?  What are they and what would
> cause you to use them (i.e. what do you see as their positive qualities)?

I might start with someone who is a good facilitator and mediator from a 
neighbouring community.

> 2) What would trigger your decision to use an outside resource?

If we couldn't resolve it internally or get to a point where people 
could agree to disagree, and if the conflict was causing problems for 
the community.

> 3) Do you have any specific process, policy, set of guidelines, etc. that
> would guide you in how to go about doing this?  (Perhaps you don't believe
> that such a policy would be useful?).  If you do, would you be willing to
> share them with me so I can take them back to our group?

I posted our link already,

        - catya
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