Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Consensus decision making

[Racheli Gai (racheli]

Hi Sharon,
I completely agree that the word 'trust' gets abused in the ways that
you mentioned, and I also agree about how trust can be built (and what
forms of behavior kill it).

Racheli


On Aug 5, 2008, at 8:35 AM, Sharon Villines wrote:

> On Aug 5, 2008, at 10:29 AM, Racheli Gai wrote:
>
> > I think that a high level of trust is a precondition for high level of
> > delegation
>
> But what is trust? And what is it based on? Is it well placed? How is
> this measured?
>
> Trust based on experience that a team or a person has made decisions
> or carried out responsibilities effectively in the past is what I call
> "trust."
>
> I often hear people say they "trust" so-and-so when what they really
> mean is that they don't want to be bothered. Let someone else do it.
> This may be a perfectly effective decision but it isn't trust. It's
> lack of  interest.
>
> "Trust" is used by others to mean "Do it my way." If they are
> questioned, they respond, "You don't trust me."
>
> My response is, "Well, no, I don't. There is no evidence that you can
> do this job or that you care about how it effects other people. It
> doesn't mean you can't do that, but you aren't giving me any
> assurances, much less evidence."
>
> The downside to the concept of trust is that is used as a
> justification for bad delegation.
>
> And as evidence of a pure soul, "I trust therefore I am kind and
> loving and good." They carry signs, I trust!
>
> (You can tell how trusting I am this morning.)
>
> Sharon
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> Sharon Villines
> Takoma Village Cohousing,Washington DC
> http://www.takomavillage.org
>
>
>
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