Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: March 12th Training in Conflict Resolution Skills

[R Philip Dowds (rpdowds]

Our problem at Cornerstone is not conflict resolution:  If we actually
manage to talk about something, we often do a pretty good job.

Our problem is conflict AVOIDANCE:  We have, in my view, an interesting and
un-short list of unresolved interpersonal grievances, questionable
behaviors, and controversial policy choices that somehow never seem to find
agenda time.  When I try to bring them into the light, I get everything from
³No, that¹s not right, that¹s not the problem² to ³If you¹re so
dissatisfied, why did you move here?²

Suggestions?

Philip Dowds
Cornerstone Cohousing
Cambridge, MA

On 2/2/11 9:01 AM, "Ann Zabaldo" <zabaldo [at] earthlink.net> wrote:

> 
> Hi Margaret!
> 
> Tell us a little more about Coho Third Siders?  Very interesting name.  Who
> are you and what kinds of activities are you involved in besides this upcoming
> event?
> 
> Best --
> 
> Ann Zabaldo
> Takoma Village Cohousing
> Washington, DC
> Principal, Cohousing Collaborative, LLC
> Falls Church VA
> 703 663 3911
> 
> On Feb 1, 2011, at 10:32 PM, Margaret wrote:
> 
>> > 
>> > The Coho Third-Siders are sponsoring a second annual training for members
>> of
>> > Colorado cohousing communities on practical skills for creatively
>> addressing
>> > conflict in our communities.  Our training last year at Nyland Cohousing
>> > focused on mediation skills.  This year, we are offering training in a
>> > broader range of conflict resolution skills that can assist you in becoming
>> > an agent for change in any interaction.  We are also offering a structured
>> > opportunity for members of different communities to share their experiences
>> > with addressing conflict. We believe cohousing communities have much to
>> > offer each other in creatively addressing the differences that inevitably
>> > arise in living in community.  We are excited to be able to offer this
>> > training and hope you will want to join us.
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> > When:  March 12, 2011, 9 AM to 4 PM
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> > Where:  Silver Sage Village Cohousing, 1650 Yellow Pine Avenue, Boulder,
>> > Colorado, 80304
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> > Cost:  $40 in advance by March 10, payable to Jeff Jones at
>> > www.clrconseling.com, click on the paypal "pay now" button; or by check to
>> > Margaret Porter at 1654 Yellow Pine Avenue, Boulder, Colorado, 80304.  Cost
>> > is $50 at the door; cost includes vegetarian lunch and materials
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> > Tentative agenda:
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> >     Overview:  Introduction, history and goals of Coho Third-Siders and
>> > goals for this training
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> >     Practical skill building sessions, including learning points and
>> > interactive practice
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> >     Lunch
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> >     Third Side framework, roles, and practical applications in cohousing
>> > communities
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> >     Networking: How to build capacity within and among our communities for
>> > creatively addressing conflict.
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> > Feel free to contact one of us if you have questions about Coho
>> Third-Siders
>> > or about this training or have suggestions for topics you would like us to
>> > include.
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> > Marilyn Guy
>> > 
>> > Jeff Jones
>> > 
>> > Margaret Porter
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
>> > CoHo Third-Siders
>> > 
>> > 
>> > 
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