Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Law free

[Wayne Tyson (landrest]

CoHo:

I am not suggesting that "law-free," but socially-bound communities are 
perfect, where everyone's expectations are always met. I am suggesting that 
rule-binding has a way of creating rather than resolving potential and 
actual conflict, and that an atmosphere of mutualism and resolution in 
response to the merits of individual cases is an easier, more effective way 
of increasing social bonds rather than binding a community with rules.

This is not to say that "slackers" don't exist, but it is to say that 
resistance to rules is easier for a slacker than breaking social bonds. I 
question whether posted rules are a more effective way to get contributions 
than unwritten social obligations.

In reality, we all live in a combination of laws and social mores, so the 
"practical" question is "What kind of balance do we find most agreeable?" 
Which will trend toward more community spirit and less toward crime and 
punishment?

WT

PS: I have lived in communities where cooperation was prevalent and 
voluntary. Socially "challenged" people soon got the idea, through feedback 
or its lack, how they were "fitting in." Sociopaths got ostracism, a good 
thrashing, or the long arm of the law, in roughly that ascending order. Most 
folks just "got along." "The perfect is the enemy of the good" might be an 
oversimplified aphorism, but it also might be worth mulling over.



----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Mary English" <mary.english [at] hsc.utah.edu>
To: "Cohousing-L" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
Sent: Tuesday, May 10, 2011 1:10 PM
Subject: [C-L]_ Law free


> Let me know where you live. I want to move THERE.
>
> In our law free situation NOTHING gets done. "Occasional person not 
> pulling their weight." How about the occasional persons who are pulling 
> their weight and now are totally disillusioned by cohousing.
>
> Mary
>
> ________________________________________
> From: Wayne Tyson [landrest [at] cox.net]
> Sent: Tuesday, May 10, 2011 11:44 AM
> To: Cohousing-L
> Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Common House Use Proposal
>
> Coho:
>
> In the alternative, what about lightening up and just asking the 
> occasional
> person who is not pulling his or her weight how life is going for them? 
> Most
> people in law-free situations tend to more, rather than less, and the
> exceptions often have a reason, like health for example, that they don't
> want to talk about, but will if you try getting close to them first, you
> might find that you have increased the community bond rather than bonded 
> the
> community.
>
> WT
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "John Goldberg" <johngoldberg [at] hotmail.com>
> To: "Cohousing dot org Listserv" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
> Sent: Tuesday, May 10, 2011 6:03 AM
> Subject: [C-L]_ Common House Use Proposal
>
>
> > I would like to know what cohousers think of the following common house
> > use proposal:
> >
> >
> > 1. Nonresident owners can reserve common house only if they have
> >
> > participated in a work day within previous 6 months or have done
> >
> > 4+ hours of work for the community in past 6 months. They are encouraged
> > to
> >
> > make a $ donation to cohousing for use of the common house too.
> > Nonresident
> >
> > owners will be scheduled at a lower priority than resident's events.
> >
> >
> >
> > 2. Coho residents can reserve common house only if they have participated
> > in
> >
> > a work day within previous 6 months or have done 4+ hours of
> >
> > work for the community in past 6 months.
> >
> >
> >
> > 3. No commercial events, meaning the primary purpose of the event is
> > selling
> >
> > something.
> >
> >
> >
> > 4. Lessons or classes are OK if the student (or at least 1 student in a
> >
> > group class) is a  coho resident and the lesson/ class is held in c.h. 
> > for
> >
> > student's convenience.
> >
> >
> >
> > 5. Spontaneous events by residents are encouraged and there is no formal
> >
> > process for them.
> >
> >
> >
> > 6. Only those on a cook team who regularly cook can sign up for meals.
> >
> >
> >
> > 7. All events will leave c.h. at least as clean as they found it 
> > including
> >
> > doing all laundry, putting away all clean laundry and dishes, and mopping
> >
> > floors.
> >
> >
> >
> > Thank you very much for your thoughts about the above common house use
> > proposal,
> >
> > John Goldberg
> >
> >
> >
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