Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Decision-Making [was What Is Process?

[R Philip Dowds (rpdowds]

I too have noticed this.  We have recently converted from a "decision rule" 
(thank you Diana) emphasizing unanimous affirmation to one emphasizing the call 
for, and resolution of, objections.  In general, the new procedure is working 
better ... and yet, some people remain reluctant to make a clear, concise 
statement of their objection(s).  In some cases, it seems to be because they 
are avoiding conflict and argument, or fear their viewpoint will not stand up 
to reasoned rebuttal.  In other cases, it might be that they are uncomfortable 
stating their REAL objections.  Finally, there may be some who simply want to 
stall things out in a miasma of vaporous difficulties, none of which are 
defined in ways that allow for remedies.

RPD

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On Jan 15, 2013, at 11:22 AM, Sharon Villines <sharon [at] sharonvillines.com> 
wrote:

> What we need to know each person's personal concerns and objections, if any. 
> That some won't reveal themselves and our facilitators won't take the time to 
> pin people down. These individuals often get angry when that is done and the 
> minute they begin to get angry, the facilitator backs off. No confrontation 
> is acceptable.