Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Question about "dining clubs"

[KJ (pumpkin2282]

I agree with Diana.  I can't imagine always inviting everyone in the whole 
community to everything, even if I wanted to use th CH, fi a bigger space.  
Seems like it would be tiring. 

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On Sep 14, 2013, at 12:11 PM, Diana Carroll <dianaecarroll [at] gmail.com> 
wrote:

> 
> On Saturday, September 14, 2013, Sharon Villines wrote:
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>> In 13 years, no one has ever had an event for some community members that
>> excluded other community members in the common house.  It just wouldn't
>> happen. It would be rude.
>> 
>> So it's an unwritten social rule to define that as "rude". I don't think
> is a given that all people would define it that way. I certainly wouldn't.
> 
> For example, I have formed a few very close friendships with some people in
> my community....I don't think I'm required to be BFFs with everyone just
> because I am with a few!  If I want to get together with my Besties, maybe
> for a small celebration of some milestone, that's a gathering of about 3-4
> community friends and another 4-5 outside folks...too big for my house. So,
> I'd use the CH. I'd be bewildered if someone accused me of rudeness for
> wanting to hang with my buds.
> 
> So "it's rude" is a particular opinion but for sure not universal amongst
> cohousers.  If its a commonly held view at Takoma, that would explain why
> people don't do it!  Who wants to be vied as rude by neighbors?  :-(
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