Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: divorce in cohousing

[R Philip Dowds (rpdowds]

I’m inclined to think that every divorce is inevitably its own special case.  A 
consistently applicable and appropriate policy about divorce is probably as 
hard to craft as one about euthanasia.
RPD



On Feb 10, 2014, at 9:06 PM, Doug Huston <huston [at] ashlandcoho.com> wrote:

> 
> At times I’ve read on this list serve how stressful break-ups/divorces have 
> been on communities. 
> In our community, we are considering the following proposal: 
> When a couple breaks up, the person who moves out of the community is 
> automatically no longer a member of the community. 
> This means he/she cannot be an off-site member, a category which exist for 
> some communities.
> This would be the default situation. Exceptions could be considered. If after 
> one year the member who moved out wants to re-join, the group could choose to 
> consider this - or not.
> The intention behind this is to insulate the community (to some extent) from 
> the common challenges, stress, and tensions which usually accompany 
> break-ups, and would likely be heightened if both parties remain formally 
> involved in community activities. 
> We are wondering what others in communities think, and if there are similar 
> or related policies regarding break-ups elsewhere in cohousing. 
> Thanks for your comments in advance.
> 
> Doug Huston - Ashland (Oregon) Cohousing Community 
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