Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: A Glimps of Cohousing in 2060

[Patricia Lautner (lautnerp]

I really believe it's possible to avoid the 'blocker' scenario so long as
your community has a strict practice that a block must only happen to
protect a commonly held value.  In our community, this is understood so
well that blocking almost never comes up.  And when it does, the blocker is
gently reminded and urged to explain to the community what common value
they are protecting.  Usually at that point the blocker will say that they
probably can't block but they feel strongly or something like that.  (What
happens next is entirely dependent on the skill of the facilitator

Patti Lautner
JPCohousing - Boston
www.communitasdevelopment.com

On Mon, Jan 5, 2015 at 6:38 PM, Carol Agate <carolagate [at] me.com> wrote:

>
> Sharon,
>
> What if it’s always the same few people who block?
>
> Carol
> Cornerstone Village, Cambridge
>
>
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> > On Dec 24, 2014, at 11:33 AM, Sharon Villines <sharon [at] 
> > sharonvillines.com>
> wrote:
> >
> >
> >
> > On Dec 24, 2014, at 8:44 AM, R Philip Dowds <rpdowds [at] comcast.net> 
> > wrote:
> >
> >> Said another way … I agree that toleration of diversity and the end of
> oppression are much to be desired.  But I’m not convinced that consensus
> decision-making is the key to this challenge.
> >
> > If it is used as an opportunity to understand and allow for diversity,
> it can be. When objections are taken seriously and resolved instead of
> submerged or over powered.
> >
> > Unfortunately, subversion or overpowering is to often used, consciously
> or unconsciously. The majority wants you to consent for the "good of the
> community," one of my pet peeves. The "good of the community" is most often
> raised when the majority unites against the "holdouts" or the "blockers."
> Is it ever defined before discussion starts?
> >
> > That is one reason why I would like to see preference ratings use more
> often. Even if it isn't used to make the final decision, it can be very
> revealing of where individuals stand on a spectrum of I can live with this
> or I think this is a good idea.
> >
> > Sharon
> > ----
> > Sharon Villines
> > Sociocracy: A Deeper Democracy
> > http://www.sociocracy.info
> >
> >
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