Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: bullying behavior

[Muriel Kranowski (murielk]

Carol, does your community have a statement of values and/or principles
that includes treating others with respect or some such formulation?
Because if you do, I think that might be a way to talk about how to teach
those same values to children from their earliest years.

On Fri, Jun 12, 2020 at 8:40 AM CJ Q <homeschoolvideo [at] gmail.com> wrote:

> Hi all,
> I will check the archives but I think I've looked over all the kid ones as
> much as possible.  Please give us some advice on how to curb bullying
> behavior of small children.
>
> We have many kids but 90% are preschool and there is a lot of unkind words,
> ganging up, excluding, and coercion.  And, like many communities, there are
> differences of parenting style.  Some parents discuss right away with the
> child, bring them inside, and/or have some sort of consequence. Others, are
> into the idea of complete freedom for their children and are struggling
> with how to change their children's behavior or think fighting and hitting
> is part of growing up and that kids should never get any directions.  I'm
> not against giving kids freedom and helped run a Sudberry Valley/Democratic
> School, however, we did have to ask some children to leave there if they
> were too violent and here we can't (or can we ?)  I have also seen in
> Democratic Schools adults who don't understand the whole concept and never
> set any limits so parents took their kids out since it didn't feel safe and
> a lot of unsafe stuff did happen.
> I appreciate your help since some of our children are hurting and all the
> parents are having a hard time getting along right now (and are hurt too)
>
> Thanks in advance,
> Carol
> Emerson Commons (still new since Feb 2019)
> you can email me too at homeschoolvideo [at] gmail.com
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