Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: offensive language in the game

[Sharon Villines (sharon]

> On Mar 9, 2021, at 9:25 AM, R Philip Dowds via Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] 
> cohousing.org> wrote:
> 
> I’ll return to my earlier point:  I agree that language counts, and words 
> matter.  But as we all try to learn the most constructive way to say things, 
> maybe we should cut each other some slack?

And remember that one of the goals of cohousing, that gets mentioned a lot, is 
diversity. What does deciding how people should behave mean in terms of 
diversity? 

One of our members died last month. In writing about my memories of him, I 
talked about his seeming love of arguing. For 21 years, he was as dependable as 
waterfalls: 

> Steve had a habit of asking people what their opinion was about something and 
> then arguing with them about their response. It was a mystery why he asked in 
> the first place — except for the argument. Just after Carrie moved in she 
> witnessed one of Steve’s arguments with me in the dining room. Of course, 
> Carrie explained to us how if we used different words we could easily resolve 
> this. I should say this and he should say that. Of course, we ignored her. 
> The whole point was the argument.

Sharon
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Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org