Re: Inappropriate Behavior | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Joyce Cheney (jcheneyjc![]() |
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Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 20:24:17 -0700 (PDT) |
We have no work requirements, and no work expectations. We only have hopes - that residents/owners will pitch in with the many kinds of work that coho REQUIRES. Not surprisingly, a few people do LOTS of the work, and there are resentments/burnouts. Some, not all, feel that this dearth of work requirement/expectation is a mistake. Because there is no work requirement or expectation, it’s taboo to discuss with someone their not working, except to emphasize the fun/sense of community that can come from pitching in. Shared meals are different: people choose to sign up every quarter, and REQUIRED cooking/cleanup slots are divided equally amongst those who will eat that quarter. Sent from my iPhone > On Sep 6, 2021, at 1:33 PM, Virgil Huston <virgil.huston1955 [at] gmail.com> > wrote: > > All these things are what happens all the time in social situations. > Except maybe asking to borrow a car, but only because that may be a > rare thing to need to ask for (although in poor communities, that and > asking for rides happens all the time. People are never obligated to > answer questions put to them and can say no to requests to borrow > things. Many of the things you mention are how people have been > getting to know each other since language was invented. And I see > nothing wrong about calling out slackers LOL. The slacker may not like > it. > >> On Mon, Sep 6, 2021 at 2:30 PM Muriel Kranowski <murielk [at] vt.edu> wrote: >> >> Responding to these in increasing rank from totally innocuous to possibly >> problematic: >> >> Asking to borrow a car for an important local trip. - very acceptable, and >> the trip doesn't have to be that important >> >> Responding to email post that may not be directed to you but that you have >> information about. -I don't think anyone would object to this. >> >> Asking question of neighbors pertaining to their health, work, community >> involvement or their family.- So, is it okay to ask nosy questions... >> depends on the relationship, the situation, the context in which it's >> asked, all of that. My husband just had serious surgery and EVERYONE is >> asking about his health, and that feels good and supportive. But when I >> knew a neighbor was out of work, I didn't want to keep bugging him with >> "How's the job search going?" even though I was concerned about him. >> >> Mentioning to community members about their lack of participation around >> tasks they have chosen or assigned.- Well, since we all know this is not an >> easy conversation to have, we have a workshare position called Workshare >> Tracker whom we authorize to have those conversations for us. You have to >> have the right kind of person for this, and fortunately we do. Somehow this >> question has a very privacy-invading vibe to it, even though it directly >> affects the community. >> >> Muriel at Shadowlake Village >> _________________________________________________________________ >> Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: >> http://L.cohousing.org/info >> >> >> > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://L.cohousing.org/info > > >
- Re: Inappropriate Behavior, (continued)
- Re: Inappropriate Behavior Sharon Villines, September 6 2021
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Re: Inappropriate Behavior Muriel Kranowski, September 6 2021
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Re: Inappropriate Behavior Virgil Huston, September 6 2021
- Re: Inappropriate Behavior Muriel Kranowski, September 6 2021
- Re: Inappropriate Behavior Joyce Cheney, September 6 2021
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Re: Inappropriate Behavior Virgil Huston, September 6 2021
- Re: Inappropriate Behavior David Bygott, September 6 2021
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