Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Conflict Resolution in your CC&R's

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Charla Lowery,Heartwood Commons, Tulsa, OK <charlamcmillanlowery [at] yahoo.com>
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What are CC&R's?

It is an unnecessarily large jump from face-to-face
conflict resolution to hiring an outside mediator. There are several
steps in between.

1. Ask a third party, whom both people in the conflict approve, to
help with the conflict resolution.

2. Have a Conflict Resolution committee member who is trained in some
type of conflict resolution process help facilitate a discussion
between the two parties in conflict.

3. Bring the conflict to the whole community to help resolve.

4. Hire an outside consultant trained in a conflict resolution process
to facilitate the conflict resolution process between the two parties.

I hope some of out cohousing experts weigh in on this question.

Charla Lowery,Heartwood Commons CohousingTulsa, OK