Cohousing-L Mailing List: Two Weeks left to register for "Working Effectively with Three Kinds of Community Conflict"

[Diana Leafe Christian Webinars (dianaleafechristianwebinars]

Hello,


Do you sometimes feel confused or worn out from feeling confused and
discouraged by conflict in your cohousing neighborhood? Or by conflict
you've been involved in personally?


Have you been frustrated when the usual methods cohousers use —empathetic
conversation, Nonviolent communication, Talking Stick Circles, or calling
in outside communities consultants — don’t seem to make any difference?


The above remedies, which are designed to address interpersonal conflict,
and often *do* resolve interpersonal issues -- don't seem to work with what
I see as two other kinds of community conflict. One is "structural
conflict," which arises from the group not having important agreements and
policies in place. The other is what I called "especially challenging
behaviors" in my article series for *Communities* magazine.


My upcoming class, "Working Effectively with Three Kinds of Community
Conflict--What You Can Do," is scheduled for seven Thursday evenings
starting April 17. Times are 4-6:30pm US Pacific Time and 7-9:30pm US
Eastern Time.



The fees are US$195 to $295 sliding scale, with a discount for groups of
five or more from the same community who register at the same time.


In my experience individuals and whole communities can resolve conflict
more easily if they can first identify which kinds of conflict are involved
-- and it's usually more than one kind. Both structural conflict (re the
community's administrative process) and "especially challenging behaviors"
(in individuals) will usually also generate interpersonal conflict. So
conflict in cohousing is often *layered*, with interpersonal conflict on
the surface, and one or both of the other two kinds underneath.  Most
time-tested community remedies don't address this. No wonder we're so often
frustrated when trying to resolve community conflicts!


Fortunately, many individuals and communities have identified and resolved
these three kinds of conflict -- and we can too.


Here’s the link for more information and to register:


https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/working-effectively-with-community-conflict/


My great wish is that cohousers everywhere can use these proven,
field-tested methods from successful communities for how to effectively and
successfully address each of these three kinds of conflict.


Diana Leafe Christian