Cohousing-L Mailing List: Upcoming Jan 17 Conflict Class: We CAN successfully address three kinds of community conflict

[Diana Leafe Christian Webinars (dianaleafechristianwebinars]

Here's more information about the three kinds of community conflict we
explore in my life online seven-week class, "Working Effectively with
Three Kinds of Community Conflict, starting Saturday, Jan 17, middays.
Times: Pacific, 10am-123opm; Eastern 1pm-3:30pm.

While most community conflict looks like simple interpersonal
conflict, I believe two other kinds of conflict also exist.

One is Structural Conflict, when communities don't realize they need
agreements and policies about important community issues, first
described in _Creating a Life Together._

Another is what I call "especially challenging behaviors," in which
one or more people frequently and consistently behave in
self-centered, entitled ways and tend to display empathy only to try
to get what they want. A second version of this is appearing
unconfident and frequently victimized, but underneath they feel
superior to others and entitled to get what they want. I wrote about
this in an article series in _Communities_ magazine. (If you'd like a
link to all the articles in the series please email me at
diana [at] ic.org)

Each of these other two kinds also triggers interpersonal conflict as well!

If you sometimes feel discouraged by community conflict, it may be
because you are not only experiencing simple interpersonal conflict,
but also at least one other kind of conflict underneath it, and
sometimes, _both_ other kinds at once! This combination of different
kinds of conflict can be very challenging for community members and
community consultants to resolve, or even to recognize.

In the class we'll explore practical, workable solutions successful
communities hae used to resolve or contain each kind of conflict.
There _are_ things we can do!

In the class we’ll explore practical, workable solutions successful
communities have used to resolve or contain each type of conflict.
There are things we can do!

Here's a link for more information and to Register:
https://www.schoolofintegratedliving.org/working-effectively-with-community-conflict/

In the class we'll look at how individuals, groups of friends, and
whole communities have successfully addressed each of these kinds of
conflict.

Each class session includes slide-show presentations, discussion,
hands-on practice with effective conflict-reducing techniques, and
Q&A, as well as short videos and handouts to watch and read before the
session.

Fee: $195 - $295 Sliding Scale. Group rate of 20% discount) for five
or more people from the same community. BIPOC people receive 50% off
the middle of the sliding scale.

I'm doing a FREE two-hour class on this topic on Wednesday, Dec. 17
through the FIC (Foundation for Intentional Community), or you can
donate an amount for the class to the FIC as well. The class will give
an overview of each kind of conflict and one or two techniques to
address each kind which you can take home and use right away. 10am
Pacific Time, 1pm Eastern. Here's the link to register for this free
FIC class: https://www.ic.org/event/three-kinds-of-conflict/

All good wishes,
Diana Leafe Christian