Re: Porches/Stoops/Anti-Social Behavior | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Fred H Olson WB0YQM (fholsonmaroon.tc.umn.edu) | |
Date: Tue, 22 Aug 1995 11:00:55 -0500 |
LF [at] ISR.HARVARD.EDU Lynne Farnum is the author of the message below but due to a listserv problem it was posted by the COHOUSING-L sysop (Fred). **************** FORWARDED MESSAGE FOLLOWS ********************* That was a wonderful story about George and Louise and "stoop culture". Just a generation or two ago, that was how most neighorhoods functioned, whether in a small town or a big city. I grew up in a New Hampshire town of 4000, and although most areas were not so densely built that you could talk stoop-to-stoop or porch-to-sidewalk, it was expected that you would talk with anyone you met while walking down the street, and wave to anyone who wasn't close enough to talk to. You didn't have to like your neighbors or have a great deal in common with them, but there was a definite community standard of neighborliness. Harry contends that people haven't become less social, they just don't behave in neighborly ways any more because a conspiracy of evil architects stopped designing front porches. I won't presume to describe Canadian society, since I don't live there. But I have observed the enormous changes in community behavior (or lack of it) in America over the last 35 years. A recent Boston Globe article struck me as exemplifying the extreme lengths to which our society has come to value individualism over community, and personal autonomy over shared experiences. Research studies show that the average number of TVs per household is about 3 and increasing rapidly. (This at a time when household size is shrinking just as fast.) In many homes TVs now outnumber the people. One suburban family of 4 that was profiled had 7 TVs: one in each bedroom, plus kitchen, living room, family room, and playroom. The parents explained that after a hard day at work they liked to "relax" in the living room with their programs of choice, while each of their sons watched their own shows in separate rooms from the time they got home from school, except when they went out to basketball or football practice. The beauty of this arrangement, you see, is that everybody gets their own remote and no one ever has to talk to the rest of the family, or even be in the same room with them! Is it any wonder that in a culture where people increasingly avoid interacting with even their closest family members, most do not seek interaction with their neighbors? Does anyone think that the family above -- not at all atypical -- would be organizing block parties and devoting their weekends to community projects, if only they had a front porch? Come on, the only way they'd sit on a front porch is if there was a TV -- make that 3 TVs -- and that would kind of defeat the community-building purpose. There are many, many people who mourn the loss of community life and long to be connected to the people and place where they live. That's why they're attracted to cohousing. But we have to be realistic and acknowledge that those goals are at odds with the prevailing trends in popular culture. It no longer surprises me that when I enthusiastically describe cohousing to people, the very things that excite me about it are anathema to others. "No attached garages? A sidewalk 20' from my front door? Eating meals cafeteria style? Somebody else telling me what I can do in my own back yard? No way!" Yes, attached garages, lack of front porches, and deep setbacks certainly decrease neighborhood interaction. And that is exactly what a majority of Americans want -- to be "protected" from other people, and to maintain their privacy. At any cost. Lynne Farnum
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Re: Porches/Stoops/Anti-Social Behavior Fred H Olson WB0YQM, August 22 1995
- Re: Re: Porches/Stoops/Anti-Social Behavior Harry Pasternak, August 23 1995
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