Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Dysfunctional

[Mark Frauenglass (WORKGROUP/MAILDATA/Mark%Acquilano_Leslie_Inc+p]

>Sage McKenzie
said
>2.  if community is created without people dealing with their 'stuff' the
>dysfunctional family is recreated.
>
>I have not ruled coho out completely and will continue to read your
>experiences with interest.

I'm sorry you got turned off.
I don't like power playing either.

I mentioned the community not being a therapy session for peoples 'stuff',
along with posting about some handicaps being a burden.  Every one has
troubles and needs the support of their village, and helping out can feel
quite good.  The line gets crossed for me when a person doing their 'stuff'
puts down, yells at and belittles someone in a business meeting. I wouldn't
do that to my kids ever especially in front of others.

So what do you do?  Good neighbors can talk to their neighbors.  Living in
coho has that feeling of commitment.  Like a family or a marriage.  I'm in
it for the long run, so I can tell my neighbors to their face I think this
isn't cool.  I don't see cohousing as a cure.

Mark Frauenglass
He ain't heavy, he's my brother ...
I just live next door, I'm not your shrink.