Re: Personal Announcements at Community Meetings | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Fred H. Olson (fholsoncohousing.org) | |
Date: Mon, 29 Mar 1999 09:33:17 -0600 |
Robyn Williams Fremantle, Western Australia <zen [at] iinet.net.au> is the author of the message below but due to a problem it was posted by the Fred the list manager: owner-cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org -------------------- FORWARDED MESSAGE FOLLOWS -------------------- Nice thread Kim and the responses are all really good information.. At Pinakarri, before each business meeting, we generally start with a 'sharing'. This may mean different things to different people. To me, it's the group equivalent of asking someone, 'How are you today?' and being sincerely interested in their response. A typical round of responses at Pinakarri might be; 'I've had a terrible week or day, but I'm feeling OK now', 'I'm feeling flat and tired - I don't really feel like being here - I might leave soon', 'Yeh, life is good, busy', 'Pass', 'I realised something this week ...'. This basic 'sharing' is really useful before getting into issues, the discussion and outcomes of which can be coloured by the mood of individuals. Pinakarri roughly means 'listen deeply / deep listening' - we are proud to have been given the blessing of the Aboriginal Nyangamarta people to use it. Pinakarri is our touchstone. It informs our processes, especially if we are going off the rails. So we also hold 'a Pinakarri'. This is usually a specific gathering where business is not discussed. It is an opportunity to listen to each other, deeply. Sometimes it may be on a topic, eg 'parenting and children in community'; which may be guided, ie someone poses a couple of questions or points, eg your fears/hopes/what's working now re parenting in community. Sometimes it's a talking stick or heart circle. This can get quite emotional for some people. Some are comfortable to bare it all, some are more reserved - I've been in all of the possible camps at various times. I have felt frustrated and impatient at times, listening to people moan about their miserable lives; I've moaned about my miserable life, etc. The net result is the deep bonding of the group - we are connected via our frailties as well as our personas. At a personal level these sharings have been a positive catalyst for my own growth, begging my patience and compassion and vulnerability. There needs to be clear agreements and parameters. There can be a fine line between a heart circle and a group therapy session. And I feel strongly that this is not an opportunity to hide behind the group's skirts to have a go at another person about a personal matter. (This happens!) Start simply and let it happen with little more than a gentle prod. That's enough. Warmest regards Robyn Williams Pinakarri Community Fremantle, Western Australia
- Re: Personal Announcements at Community Meetings, (continued)
- Re: Personal Announcements at Community Meetings DHCano, March 25 1999
- Re: Personal Announcements at Community Meetings Bitner/Stevenson, March 25 1999
- Re: Personal Announcements at Community Meetings Denise Meier, March 25 1999
- Re: Personal Announcements at Community Meetings Lynn Nadeau, March 28 1999
- Re: Personal Announcements at Community Meetings Fred H. Olson, March 29 1999
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