|Re: Email for Cohousing||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Lynn Nadeau (welcomeolympus.net)|
|Date: Thu, 7 Oct 1999 18:42:30 -0600 (MDT)|
RoseWind here, in Port Townsend WA. 16 of our 20 families have email. 14 of those with email live on site. And email still serves a VERY important function among us. All the positives mentioned on this thread so far apply. What can I add? 1) If a communication goes out over email, and applies to the whole group, be sure to get paper copies, phone calls, or such to those who do not have email. (This is for things like announcements of meetings or discussions, call for input on proposals, input on matters of common concern, minutes.) 2) Know your colleagues. One of our members has explicitly told us that SHE wants face to face discussion of any personal issue that involves her, and considers it disrespectful to hear about it by email instead. Most of us, on the other hand, welcome the opportunity to deal with "loaded" content via email, as we can choose when to read it, have our immediate defensive reactions in private, and take the time, or rewrites, needed to formulate a thoughtful response. If you don't know these things about each other, ask. It makes an interesting sharing circle topic, for one thing, looking at related issues like how much individuals do or don't welcome dropping in, phone calls, written responses. You realize we are all different, shaped by our families, other prior experiences, and temperaments. -------- We have no lack of face to face interaction here. But none of us spends days sitting around the house. We are out a lot. A tremendous amount of communication happens by email which simply wouldn't happen at all, if left to the times we are physically together. And, frankly, I'd rather deal with issues as an on-line debate most of the time, and leave community suppers, for example, free for non-stressful conversation, building on our commonalities. ( I don't want to see "George" coming, and say to myself, "Oh, no, here comes a contentious rant about the common house budget." But if I see an email from George on the subject, I can deal with it more evenly.) The value of email in the group is great, and is not worth abandoning for the sake of a few sensitive areas. Best to find ways to avoid the pitfalls, but keep that "baby" in the bathwater.
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