Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Cohousing-L'ove

[Deb Smyre (dsmyre]

At 01:08 AM 10/26/1999 -0500, Matt Lawrence wrote:
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>I spent several hours this last weekend talking with the woman who is the
>centre of major controversy at Ft. Hood.  She's the High Priestess of a
>Wiccan coven there and holds open circles on a regular basis.  She has put
>up with huge amounts of crap because of her beliefs.

        I think anyone who isn't a whiteanglomaleprotestant can expect
        some degree of 'crap' from others at some point in their lifetime.
        I think when a person chooses a lifestyle that's outside the norm
        of their local community's belief system, they can certainly
        expect some degree of 'crap'.

        An interesting thing to watch during this discussion is the
        eagerness with which poly people have chosen to 'out' 
        themselves in a community forum, but then in a very
        contradictory manner state to community members that
        it's "none of your damn business".

>It saddens me to hear of people who believe it is impossible to love more
>than one person at a time, what a barren world they must live in.

        I believe love has many forms, not just romantic/sexual love
        that seems to be the primary focus of polyamory.  We love our
        children.  We love our parents.  We love our neighbors.  Most
        people I know love and are loved by many others, do not share
        a marriage bed with more than one mate at at time, and do
        manage to live fruitful lives.

        Deb