Re: Image fear/stereotypes | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: pattymara (pattymarajuno.com) | |
Date: Wed, 21 Mar 2001 13:19:01 -0700 (MST) |
Dear Rob and List, At Tierra Nueva, Cen, CA Coast, we have some of these folks that you've described in the following paragraph: <floriferous [at] msn.com> writes: > In the outreach work I do I have met a few folks that project all > kinds of > things onto cohousing, and don't bother to even listen while I > explain that > their fantasies are all wrong. They walk away convinced that they > know what > they know and don't listen to any other perspective. These folks > would > never, ever make it in a cohousing community, THANK GOD! They bought homes late in the process. Their fantasies about what our communty "should be" have stirred the pot, taught us all lessons on generous listening, strained many of us to our wits end and fueled many long discussions. It is rigorous work, oftentimes draining to the point of burnout (compassion fatigue). Yet they are "making it in a cohousing community". Ours. After months of turmoil on a particular committee, one of these members has finally moved microscopically to listen to another perspective other than her own. We have all learned a tremendous lesson concerning personal boundaries and have set into place some interesting process "rhythms" relating to taking care of our own feelings, not projecting them onto others...the dangers of creating factions in the group in order to prove oneself "right"...on and on. The value of documentation on consensed decisions; the value of group approval before building anything on common space. The lessons continue. These people do find their way into cohousing communities. And we all learn, and learn, and learn from them. coheartedly, Patty Mara Gourley Tierra Nueva, cen CA coast ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/tagj. _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
- Re: Image fear/stereotypes, (continued)
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Re: Image fear/stereotypes Judy Baxter, March 20 2001
- Re: Drawing on stereotypes & fears to elicit understanding Hans Tilstra, March 20 2001
- RE: Image fear/stereotypes Rob Sandelin, March 20 2001
- Re: Image fear/stereotypes Elizabeth Stevenson, March 20 2001
- Re: Image fear/stereotypes pattymara, March 21 2001
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Re: Image fear/stereotypes Judy Baxter, March 20 2001
- Re: Image fear/stereotypes Berrins, March 21 2001
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