Re: When world(view)s collide | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: S. Fradenburgh & J. Taylor (safjstmindspring.com) | |
Date: Fri, 23 Mar 2001 15:50:02 -0700 (MST) |
Howard, Concerning your problems reaching consensus on a place for your bigger kids to play - Can your group take a couple of steps back in the process (agreeing to put on hold any sense of urgency in "solving the problem" for a specified period of time)? 1. I would suggest that you find out whether you have consensus on what the problem is. If you can clearly define the problem and keep that definition in the forefront of all discussions, you have a better chance of solving it. If, for example, the problem is, "We need a safe place for all the pre-teens to play," then you will likely come up more than just 2 options - build a playset or go to the park. 2. The second step I would suggest before going back to problem-solving discussions is to get out on the table all the needs (or wants) people have around the issue. This can take any of several forms - speaking one at a time without rebuttal or interruption, writing anonymously on notecards and mixing them up and reading each outloud, etc. Ideally, you would agree beforehand that no decisions will be made at that meeting (or meetings). You may choose to use an outside facilitator. I would guess that, besides kids' safety and supervision, you'll hear issues around money, time, noise, common space for use by adults without being overrun with kids, and several surprise issues. You may not be able to come up with a solution that meets everyone's needs, but you certainly can't address needs that you don't know about. Once you've agreed on the definition of the problem and everyone feels heard (not the same as agreed with), you can go back to decision-making discussions with a new perspective. You may even reach consensus, rather than win-lose or half-hearted compromise! Shari ******************************** Shari Fradenburgh and Joe Taylor Lake Claire Cohousing Atlanta, GA safjst [at] mindspring.com _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
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