borderline off topic-list welcomingness and politeness -- Pattee | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Fred H Olson (fholsoncohousing.org) | |
Date: Sun, 24 Mar 2002 12:35:01 -0700 (MST) |
Christine Pattee C2pattee [at] aol.com is the author of the message below. Due to a problem it was posted by Fred the Cohousing-L list manager <fholson [at] cohousing.org> -------------------- FORWARDED MESSAGE FOLLOWS -------------------- Robin, I'm sorry you got such a negative impression from your first post to the list, and I think it may have come about from a misunderstanding. As I recall, there was some discussion of children in the community - I don't remember the details, but it seemed relatively innocuous. That lead Lynn nadeau to write a post - labeled 'borderline offtopic' - discussing the difficult concept that child molestation is most often carried out by the people closest to the child. I have found Lynn, on and off list, to be one of the most helpful and polite individuals I've come across. The points she so cogently made are well known to feminists and social workers, but not necessarily so well known to the community at large. It's a message many of us feel a sense of urgency to communicate because we see the results in the children we know. (I'm a long time foster parent.) I had no sense that these remarks were directed at you personally. Being someone who is herself outspoken to the point of tactlessness, I appreciate this list as a place where people can state forceful opinions. On the other hand, I feel terrible when my words hurt somebody else, and I'm sure it's the same for other outspoken ones on this list. Christine Pattee Greater Hartford CT Cohousing > Message: 1 > From: "Robin Covington" <robcov [at] hotmail.com> > To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > Date: Sat, 23 Mar 2002 10:56:52 -0800 > Subject: [C-L]_boderline off topic > Reply-To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > > Hi Lynn: > I picked up a COMMUNITIES magaizine last week to pursue my interest in > community living. I responded to some websites and joined his one. I have > > asked some questions, and the responses to my questions make me feel > chastised and or ignorant. I AM certainly ignorant of co housing and all > it > means, entails, requires, denies, etc. Hence, my questions. > Perhaps you need to refer me to material or a website where I can learn the > > rules and know when and where my questions are appropriate. I can only > think you assume me to be uninvolved, unconcerned or brain dead. Of course > > molestation can happen by anyone, to anyone anywhere. Of course the first > thing we teach our children is to honor and protect their own bodies. And > of course the people those children trust the most are the people it is > hardest to take a stand against. Like a family member. > Jeez, was I really not supposed to ask? What's really up with you, Lynn? > _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.communityforum.net/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l
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borderline off topic-list welcomingness and politeness -- Pattee Fred H Olson, March 24 2002
- Re: borderline off topic-list welcomingness and politeness -- Pattee Robin Covington, March 25 2002
- borderline off topic-list welcomingness and politeness -- Pattee Fred H Olson, March 26 2002
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