Cohousing-L Mailing List: RE: Building trust in teams (was helping stuck committee)

[Rob Sandelin (floriferous]

Well, letting go does imply trust in the group or the individuals, at least
sometimes. Of course it can be that I don't care about the outcome, which is
not quite the same. Letting go because I am pissed off, or alienated is of
course another reason, and not trust building at all.

One thing  I have seen groups do with non-participating members is to
explicitly get them to sign on to agreement and trust, so non-participation
is clearly understood to mean, I am OK with whatever outcome the group comes
up with and I trust the group to watch out for my interests.  This is called
signing off in a couple of groups, and is a good way to ensure that peoples
nonparticipation is not because of some unhappy reason. Its a way of really
checking  in with the membership,and achieving a full consensus of the
entire group, not just those that show up at a particular meeting.

Rob Sandelin, Sharingwood.
Where a bunch of us will spend the rest of the day down the street in the
lake as the temps are approaching 90 today.



-----Original Message-----
From: cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org
[mailto:cohousing-l-admin [at] cohousing.org]On Behalf Of Sharon Villines
Sent: Monday, July 22, 2002 11:15 AM
To: Cohousing-L
Subject: Re: [C-L]_Building trust in teams (was helping stuck committee)


on 7/22/2002 1:22 PM, Rob Sandelin at floriferous [at] msn.com wrote:

> When I trust the people I work with, I can easily let go of lots of
details,
> because I trust those people to handle it. So letting go is a sign that
you
> trust the group. And letting go is a key element of humility, which is one
> of the foundations of consensus process.

Any suggestions for those who believe that letting go in and of itself,
builds trust? "I let go, therefore I trust." "I let go, therefore I am
humble."

Sharon
--
Sharon Villines
Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
http://www.takomavillage.org


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