Re: Re: [C-L] Commonhouse Air | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Elizabeth Stevenson (tamgoddessattbi.com) | |
Date: Wed, 12 Feb 2003 18:05:01 -0700 (MST) |
Wow, Racheli, this is a huge problem with a scope that goes way beyond cohousing. My son has an invisible disability, and even some who have lived with us in cohousing for 10 years have trouble believing it, in their hearts. Many of those with hidden disabilities are made to feel very alone by this. Cohousing should be a place where we don't feel alone unless we want to. But there is a constant tension between the relief that we have in living with like-minded people (perhaps a fatigue from the constant demands of living in an ever right-moving Bushy world?), and the acceptance of individuals as they are. People think that finally they can relax and be with people like them, and find out that there is more interpersonal work to do. They shut down, or deny there's a problem. My experience has been that eventually, most people learn to accept this thing they don't fully understand, and grow. It takes much patience and pushiness on the part of the person who is trying to be understood. It ain't for sissies. -- Liz Stevenson Southside Park Cohousing Sacramento, California tamgoddess [at] attbi.com > > I think you underestimate people's ability to live in denial. It seems > that some of those who don't suffer have an incredibly hard time believing > the difficulties a few of us might be having- > since, after all, the "disability" is invisible. > I agree with Lynn that the issue is that of accessibility. Without a > wheelchair, though, how do you "prove" to people you're having a problem? > > R. _______________________________________________ Cohousing-L mailing list Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org Unsubscribe and other info: http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L
- Re: [C-L] Commonhouse Air, (continued)
- Re: [C-L] Commonhouse Air Sharon Villines, February 12 2003
- Re: [C-L] Commonhouse Air racheli, February 12 2003
- Re: Re: [C-L] Commonhouse Air Sharon Villines, February 12 2003
- Re: Re: [C-L] Commonhouse Air racheli, February 12 2003
- Re: Re: [C-L] Commonhouse Air Elizabeth Stevenson, February 12 2003
- incensed :-) Howard Landman, February 12 2003
- Re: Individual versus group needs and wants Sharon Villines, February 11 2003
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