Re: Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 26, Issue 22 | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Mary English (Mary.Englishhsc.utah.edu) | |
Date: Sun, 12 Mar 2006 12:51:17 -0800 (PST) |
Re: Not Enough Privacy in Cohousing? In our community I do feel lack of boundaries about privacy has been a problem. Early on, a member wanted in the agenda of an ACM (all community meeting) a proposal that insisted that her soon to be ex-husband not be allowed on the property even to visit other friends living there, and wanting to discuss the liaison he was having with another community member. I was very uncomfortable with the request for the community to take sides in a private matter, and objected to the request. A month or so ago, a community member sent out emails to all other members, on the morning of an ACM, about the communities need to step in and take over the affairs of a community member separated from her husband. Their idea was that for her own good, the community should take a variety of steps, including making her stop seeing him, not allowing him on the property, and not allowing him to purchase a home in the community. The facilitator of the ACM said the agenda needed to be set aside so the community could discuss this unasked for intrusion into her private life. The member that wrote the email was not present and the member under discussion had not even seen a copy of the email. I stated that it was completely inappropriate for the community to involve themselves and walked out of the ACM. The discussion proceeded without me, with most present taking turns playing Dr Phil, despite any training in therapy. So, not enough privacy? I would have to say yes, in this community, I feel that is a problem. Mary English
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