Cohousing as a crucible for values | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Rob Sandelin (floriferousmsn.com) | |
Date: Sun, 16 Dec 2007 09:20:35 -0800 (PST) |
As a general trend I think it is safe to state that most people in cohousing would be more towards the liberal side of the political spectrum. That is certainly true of all the cohousing projects which I have visited. Cooperation is seen as a liberal, heck even radical activity and it seems to attract people who are more liberal. Cohousing is by design a place where it is easy to have conversations among neighbors, and news and politics certainly are talked about. From this ever ongoing conversation participants get the insight and reflection on the values of their neighbors. One of the difficulties that emerges in this milieu is when people want to insist that their values become the stated values of the group. This is where things like anti-war or environmental activism can create conflict. It is often not that the sentiment is unsupported, rather it is the intensity of the actions or feelings that differ. It is my own personal observation that in my youth I fiercely denounced family and others who were living the "wrong way", and I used all sorts of judgmental words attached to their wrongness. I wanted to convert them to rightness and I annoyed them to no end for several years. I have been much more satisfied in my life when I began applying my own values only to me, and stopped trying to apply them to others. My expectations then are that you are free to follow and live to your own values and you don't have to live up to mine. Granted, there are extremes which I do not condone, but I rarely ever encounter them. It is true that I make choices with whom I hang out with, largely based on similarities in values but this is not exclusive anymore. As a community you have this balance between personal values which can be often clearly defined and group values which are often not well defined. This balance often tugs back and forth in your decision making as a group and sometimes when things are stuck, dropping down to what is the value being expressed here might be useful. Rob Sandelin Sharingwood Snohomish County, WA
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Re: Peace is a Co-housing issue crisdenrob, December 16 2007
- Flags/ Peace is a Co-housing issue Ed and/or Kathryn Belzer, December 16 2007
- Cohousing as a crucible for values Rob Sandelin, December 16 2007
- Re: Cohousing as a crucible for values balaji, December 16 2007
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Re: Peace is a Co-housing issue Larry Miller, December 16 2007
- Re: Peace is a Co-housing issue Dirk Herr-Hoyman, December 17 2007
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