Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: The whole picture (was disengagement)

[Lynn Nadeau / Maraiah (welcome]

In response to Jessie, who has health and family matters taking center  
focus for now.
I don't think any community expects participation "no matter what". We  
all go through periods of greater and lesser availability due to  
health, family, work, relationship, and other variables. I think the  
sort of disengagement folks are referring to is of a more permanent  
sort, not due to energy needed elsewhere, but due to no longer feeling  
connected to the community. The support you refer to from your  
community as you focus on health issues IS a connection. The care and  
support we offer each other are an expression of community.

In response to Karen, no doubt about it, unconditional love is a  
beautiful thing, and a fine goal. At the same time, there are folks  
I'd rather love from a distance, rather than have them calling the  
police on their neighbors, phoning people at 6am and 1130 pm because  
their cat is in sight, issuing directives and demands vs true requests  
or suggestions, and generally behaving as if their way is the only  
acceptable way of doing things. This simply does not work well in a  
community of 24 households!

Lynn Nadeau
RoseWind Cohousing
Port Townsend WA
where I turned my heat on for the first time this year, yesterday