Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Ann Zabaldo (zabaldoearthlink.net) | |
Date: Fri, 1 Jul 2011 18:05:21 -0700 (PDT) |
HI Zev and all -- Zev - -I hear your frustration. So many seemingly intractable conflicts in the world and at the cohousing community level we're STRUGGLING over who is going to take out the community trash. And we're REALLY struggling with it. A seemingly easy issue it is fraught w/ whatever past we each bring to it. Let's hire someone. WHAAAT? That's demeaning. How can giving someone work be demeaning? If you wouldn't do it yourself ... Maybe we can rotate the job among all of us. Rotating won't work. People will forget. Who's going to draw up a schedule? Who will keep the schedule? And, if a person forgets who is going to talk to them about? No. It won't work. You're so negative about stuff. You won't even try something. Let's send it to a team to figure it out. Is there going to be a "Trash Czar?" I'm leaving if we have another bureaucratic position. Before you know it ... the issue is caught up in a "values" discussion and a plethora of unresolved issues, governance and structural problems, etc. And you know what? This.....is.....exactly.....right. We're doing what we're supposed to be doing. From my first encounter w/ cohousing waaaaay back in 1988 I realized the power of cohousing is that it is one of the roads to a world that works. Cohousing is about figuring out how to live prosperous, joyful lives together in community. If we can figure out these "little" things like guest room use, free roaming vs. indoor cats, workshare, fair use of common facilities, children's behavior, adult's behavior, adults who act like children, etc. etc. etc. then I think we have a shot at solving problems in the Middle East. I'm not kidding about that. One hundred and twenty built communities to date and we are all still pioneers. As I say repeatedly here and elsewhere ... when we get 1,000 communities built the ones that come after that will look back at us and say "What were they thinking?" We were (are) thinking about how to make this work for all of us and it's NOT EASY. When we're in the drip, drip, drip of daily life it's very hard to see that this is what winning looks like. Yet ... we are "winning." I've learned a LOT these last 20+ years. The next communities I build will benefit from all that you've taught me here and that I've learned in my community and all the people and communities I've been privileged to know and love. The next communities will be better off for what we've discovered. They will still have problems to deal with and they will pass that knowledge to us and to the next set of cohousing communities. For me, the key to living together in community lies in governance, decision making and communication. Dynamic Governance (sociocracy), consensus, and compassionate communication (nonviolent communication.) These are the basic skills I am using as a professional and as a cohousing resident to foster sustainability, ease, harmony, health, well-being and social justice. And guess what? These are the very needs not being met for all sides in the present Middle East crisis. Full circle. So. Keep your pioneer hat on. It's the place to be. Out here on the growing edge of cohousing is where the action is happening. It's where we can make a contribution to a world that works (thank you, Laird. I ripped that off from you.) In this July 4th weekend: Peace in the world. Good will toward all. Happy Friday! Best -- Ann Zabaldo Takoma Village Cohousing Washington, DC Principal, Cohousing Collaborative, LLC Falls Church VA 703 663 3911 On Jun 30, 2011, at 2:33 PM, Zev Paiss wrote: > > Friends, > > With the issues of economic stagnation, climate change, resource > depletion I am blown away by the topics I see in this Listserv. Have > we come to the point that we banter back and forth about the crumbs > while the house burns down. > > How can the cohousing concept be part of the transformation of our > current society that is still mired in deep do do. What do we have to > offer the country and to our communities? That is what I think we > should be going back and for about. > > Zev > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > >
- Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors, (continued)
- Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors Joanie Connors, June 30 2011
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Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors Sharon Villines, June 30 2011
- Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors Diana Carroll, June 30 2011
- Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors Charles Nuckolls, June 30 2011
- Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors Ann Zabaldo, July 1 2011
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Re: Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors Racheli Gai, July 1 2011
- "Larger" Issues [was Pets in Community Guest Room with Meat Eating Visitors] Sharon Villines, July 1 2011
- Re: "Larger" Issues Racheli Gai, July 2 2011
- Re: "Larger" Issues Sharon Villines, July 2 2011
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