Re: Call for journalist interviewing cohousers | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Lautner, Patricia (Patricia.Lautnerumassmed.edu) | |
Date: Mon, 19 Mar 2012 05:07:57 -0700 (PDT) |
"Would you expand on the gender dynamics in cohousing? Your comment is fascinating to me -- I'd love to try living in a cohousing community but my wife has no interest in it. That said, I have no firsthand experience with any actual cohousing communities. I guess I'd never thought to ask whether there are significant differences in how men and women approach it." I've been involved with JPCohousing for about 10 years and the men/women ratio feels very even - although I haven't studied the numbers exactly. We have 7 households of men who live alone (out of 30) and the rest are couples and single women. Of the man/woman couples, the men are very involved. I did want to point out though that I believe there is room in cohousing for couples when one of the pair is not 'into it' and the other is. In an introvert/extravert relationship (where one prefers to be a homebody and not participate much for example) I've found that cohousing could be good for that relationship. For example: often an extravert wants to go out and the introvert needs to push themselves to agree - causing a dynamic that might sometimes frustrate both parties. In cohousing, the extravert need only walk to the commonhouse, get their "people-noise-activity" needs met and be home before nightfall. The introvert feels like they are doing their quiet home thing without holding their partner back. This ends up being good for both parties. But besides the intro/extra example - if the community is large enough so that the work can get met without a strain, it's possible in a household to have 1 adult barely participate at all. We've found that in some of our couples, 1 person does the bulk of the community work and participation. This has worked out fine. I really believe that both parties don't have to really be 'into it' - although it's nice when that does happen. -Patti JPCohousing, Boston
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