Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: consequences (WAS resources on individualistic people...)

[Eris Weaver (eris]

My guess is that your community, like most, has many many agreements &
policies BUT no methods for enforcing them with any types of consequences.
Once the honeymoon is over, participation and compliance inevitably
decline if there is no mechanism for reigning in bad behavior. What did
you do when he cut down the common tree? Did you require him to replace
it, to pay a fine, to do some other work to make up for the damage he
caused the community?
-- 
Eris Weaver
Facilitator & Group Process Consultant
707-338-8589
eris [at] erisweaver.info
http://www.erisweaver.info


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> I'm wondering if anyone has recommendations on
> books/websites/resources/ideas that has ideas on encouraging communal ways
> in individuals who are more individualistic (that typical cohousers)? I
> want to figure out what to do to help when someone in community has an
> "act
> now and beg forgiveness later" attitude and acts brazenly about doing
> whatever they want (for instance, cutting down a tree on common land in an
> area designated for trees, on something of a whim) and doesn't seem
> cognizant of it (or only seems to realize the problem after the fact- and
> with lots of excuses). (And, this person has lived here for 10+ years - is
> there hope?) Any ideas or direction would be appreciated! Thank you.
>
> Amy (Wasatch Commons, Salt Lake City)
>
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> Date: Fri, 21 Sep 2012 10:47:55 -0700 (PDT)
> From: Mariana Almeida <missmgrrl [at] yahoo.com>
> Subject: Re: [C-L]_ resources on individualistic people becoming
>       community       oriented?
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> Hi Amy,?
>
> Is it an impulsiveness issue?
>
> Or a lack of empathy issue?
>
> "A problem well defined is a problem half-solved"
> ?
> Mariana
>
>
>>________________________________
>> From: Amy D <subcomandanteamy [at] gmail.com>
>>To: Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org>
>>Sent: Friday, September 21, 2012 10:05 AM
>>Subject: [C-L]_ resources on individualistic people becoming community
>> oriented?
>>
>>
>>Hello,
>>
>>I'm wondering if anyone has recommendations on
>>books/websites/resources/ideas that has ideas on encouraging communal
>> ways
>>in individuals who are more individualistic (that typical cohousers)? I
>>want to figure out what to do to help when someone in community has an
>> "act
>>now and beg forgiveness later" attitude and acts brazenly about doing
>>whatever they want (for instance, cutting down a tree on common land in
>> an
>>area designated for trees, on something of a whim) and doesn't seem
>>cognizant of it (or only seems to realize the problem after the fact- and
>>with lots of excuses). (And, this person has lived here for 10+ years -
>> is
>>there hope?) Any ideas or direction would be appreciated! Thank you.
>>
>>Amy (Wasatch Commons, Salt Lake City)
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