Re: Paying Teenagers | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Jerry McIntire (jerry.mcintiregmail.com) | |
Date: Sun, 1 Mar 2015 17:07:01 -0800 (PST) |
Thanks for sharing your experience and observation Pare, beautifully put. Jerry Jerry McIntire Stone's Throw Ecovillage, in the heart of Wisconsin's beautiful Driftless region http://stonesthrowcommunity.wordpress.com/ 1-608-637-6620 On Sat, Feb 28, 2015 at 10:08 AM, Pare Gerou <paregerou [at] gmail.com> wrote: > > Sharon- I have a teenager who lived in cohousing. He was required, without > pay, to do his mandatory workday work (garden and landscape work usually) > and to do his work in the Common House in order to get Common House > privileges (vacuuming mostly) so he could be allowed to be alone there. He > could earn more money by doing things for his neighbors. This was the only > way he had to earn money. He advertised and got paid for collecting bottles > to take to the market for deposit, helping with cleaning and other projects > with neighbors, and teaching chess lessons to a few children. This > generally worked very well, although there was one family who paid girls to > babysit but felt that paying a boy to carry boxes was not right. I think > the key is to have structured mandatory work or structured work for > privileges so they do not feel that everything they do they should get paid > for, but at the same time they should also feel that they are valued, and > this I believe is a challenge for cohousing communities. > > I believe that, if we had had a teen advisory committee that had meaningful > impact on community decisions, that my tween would have volunteered for > certain projects in the community more rather than performing only his > mandatory work and work for privileges. Another way to think about the > issue you bring up is to ask how to make teenagers more a part of the > process so they feel invested and valued and that their interests are > heard. The volunteering then would likely occur naturally just as, > frankly, adults volunteer because they realize they are part of something > they are helping to build and that values them. By the end of several > years there, my son was running to the moving vans and volunteering to help > unload boxes for new owners. This is because people had treated him like > he belonged, and he felt invested in that and enthusiastic to pass that > feeling along, but he did not feel the same way about community decisions > and power, so he did not run to help with a project he had no part in > building. Including teens and teaching them best process and governance > practices will ensure a new generation of evolving and even better > cohousing---- if that is possible :) > > > Pare Gerou > 1725 Belvedere Place > Charlottesville, VA 22901 > 434.962.7801 > > On Sat, Feb 28, 2015 at 10:20 AM, Sharon Villines < > sharon [at] sharonvillines.com > > wrote: > > > > > I'm conflicted about the issue of paying teenagers to help with tasks > that > > an adult community member would just do for me, like taking out my trash > > and recycling when I'm sick. Running across the street to the market. > > Helping me repot plants. Break up the ice in my parking space. > > > > It seems clear that if I ask a 15-year-old to come work for an hour or > two > > to help with chores that I would pay them. But if another person would > just > > clear off the snow on my car gratis or grab my trash when taking out > > theirs, should I pay a teenager to do it? > > > > Since I want teenagers to feel more like members of the community, why > not > > expect them to be part of the community? > > > > There is some line here that is blurry. Since they are often saving money > > for something, they need money. Sometimes to pay for their own phone or a > > new bicycle helmet or something their parent has said yes but you have to > > earn the money. Since they are in school and often helping at home as > well, > > having a job is not practical. So paying teenagers is helping them earn > the > > typical teenage necessities and it's helping the parents as much as the > > teens. > > > > What do other communities do about this? > > > > Sharon > > ---- > > Sharon Villines > > Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC > > http://www.takomavillage.org > > > > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > > >
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Paying Teenagers Sharon Villines, February 28 2015
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Re: Paying Teenagers Pare Gerou, February 28 2015
- Re: Paying Teenagers Jerry McIntire, March 1 2015
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Re: Paying Teenagers Pare Gerou, February 28 2015
- Re: Paying Teenagers Diana Carroll, February 28 2015
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Re: Paying Teenagers Jessie Kome, March 1 2015
- Re: Paying Teenagers Sharon Villines, March 1 2015
- Re: Paying Teenagers Matt Lawrence, March 1 2015
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