|Re: What is the Etiquette?||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Ann Zabaldo (zabaldoearthlink.net)|
|Date: Sun, 2 Aug 2015 18:42:09 -0700 (PDT)|
We have a backup person. He is on vacation for the next week. It's still would've required a call, if he wasn't home I have to leave a message, I still have to follow up on it etc. etc. I think my point is trying to make arrangements to see a community A few hours before you leaving town doesn't really work. At least not for me. Where is making arrangements in advance can accomplish everything. Ann z Takoma Village Washington DC Sent from my iPhone > On Aug 2, 2015, at 7:23 PM, Kay Wilson <kwilsonfisk [at] comcast.net> wrote: > > > A couple of thoughts....... > > --No one person should be the only person responsible to see that [fill in > the blank] gets done. If you had a back-up person, you could make one call to > that person, who could then handle the issue. > > --Contact information for visits (websites, brochures, etc.) could include a > minimum of "at least X days prior to the date you wish to visit." > > At Meadow Wood we are dealing with a similar issue. The head of our Grounds > Team has resigned for health reasons, and the person who has shared the > leadership of that team has just moved away for health reasons. As of this > time, despite several requests for someone to take over leadership, no one > has stepped up - probably in part because the two people that just stepped > down were doing such an excellent job that everyone else feels like the bar > is set too high. > > Kay Wilson > Meadow Wood Cohousing > www.mwcondo.com > > > -----Original Message----- > From: Cohousing-L [mailto:cohousing-l-bounces+kwilsonfisk=comcast.net [at] > cohousing.org] On Behalf Of Ann Zabaldo > Sent: Sunday, August 02, 2015 12:56 PM > To: Cohousing-L > Subject: [C-L]_ What is the Etiquette? > > > It’s Sunday afternoon. > > I’ve just gotten word that a close friend has lost her husband of 60+ years. > I’m staring at this sympathy card trying to figure out what words I could > possibly write that might mean anything at all at this time. I’m fixated by > the blank space on the inside of the card. > > My phone rings. There is a lovely cheery voice from a cohouser visiting from > out of state w/ a request to tour our community this afternoon. I hesitate > but then agree to squire them around Takoma Village. A few minutes later I > call them back and decline after explaining about the death. I just can’t do > it. > > I feel awful — here are these folks brimming w/ enthusiasm for seeing our > community. Normally I jump at the chance to show off TVC because I’m so > proud of it. People just want a chance to step foot in the community and > look around a bit. I know how that is! In my book … too much cohousing is > never enough! I’m for it! > > But not this afternoon. > > This has me wondering: is there etiquette for visiting a community? > > One thing I know I dislike is people just dropping by and wandering around > until they run into someone to give them a tour. While cohousers are a > friendly bunch I think we forget that these communities are our homes. > > Here are some guidelines (not rules!) I’m thinking about for requesting a > visit when I’m involved: > > 1. If you’re visiting from out of town and think you might like a tour … > give the me a few DAYS — not hours — to identify someone to give you a tour. > 3. If you want to stay in the guest room … I need at least 4 weeks notice. > Our guest rooms are heavily used. > 4. If you leave a message do leave your full name and contact info. It > helps to be able to return a call. > 5. Try to remember that each community has a life of its own. The day and > hour that’s convenient for you to visit may find me and/or the community > otherwise engaged: celebrating an important event, in the middle of a > serious work day or memorializing someone’s passing. > 6. And on the other side of the coin … one of the frustrating things I > find about trying to make an appointment in advance is NEVER getting a call > back or an answer to an email request. The phone number or email address on > your website goes to that great black communication wastebasket. If you > don’t want people to visit don’t put contact info on your website. > > You might ask: why didn’t you look for someone else to squire them around > today? That’s a good idea except I would still have to drop what I’m doing > to accommodate someone else’s schedule. I’d either have to make phone calls > or write an email and then follow up to make sure the connection was made. > > What do you think? Am I being over the top? How do you handle visits and > tours? (BTW we have four HUGE formal tours a year — 30-40 people per tour. > Plus always happy to accommodate people w/ advance notice!) > > PS — I finally did fill in the blank space on that sympathy card before I > wrote this email. Now I think I’ll go back to pondering Life, The Universe, > Death and Everything. Maybe I’ll ask Siri … > > Best -- > > Ann Zabaldo > Takoma Village Cohousing > Washington, DC > Principal, Cohousing Collaborative, LLC > Falls Church, VA > 703.688.2646 > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > >
- What is the Etiquette? Ann Zabaldo, August 2 2015
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