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From: Nancy Baughman Csuti (nancycsutigmail.com) | |
Date: Thu, 6 Aug 2015 05:02:25 -0700 (PDT) |
Thank you Ruth, and others, for this thoughtful post. I do not (yet) live in cohousing but it is a dream for my future. (There are no openings in the area and the new ones in the forming stages are all too far out of town. I can't quite justify an hour commute in heavy traffic..) BUT..I am guilty of just stopping by, as the folks in the this thread have lamented. I now realize how inconsiderate that was. I was walking around Bainbridge Island this spring and saw the sign, (it did have a Welcome, come on it sign), and I went in. I went to the common room and a young man cooking introduced me to an older, retired woman and we talked a long time. I didn't get a tour, nor did I ask for one. I have seen cohousing up close before so didn't really want a tour, just wanted to talk. But of course, now I realize I pulled her away from whatever she was doing. After following this thread I understand I should have called ahead....thanks for opening my eyes. Nancy Colorado On Wed, Aug 5, 2015 at 6:35 AM, Ruth J Hirsch <heidinys [at] earthlink.net> wrote: > > Hi, > > We schedule an 'open house'-- ie a tour-- before each monthly meeting. > All the time I bump into people who want to 'just stop by and look > around........' I clearly ask them not to. In a friendly, but clear > smiling exchange, > analogize it to our arriving and poking around their yard/house. That > helps. (pretty much always.) I explain we have an open house once a month > and to send me an email (giving them my email address) and I will happily > send them upcoming dates. > And something like this happened with someone from where I used to live. > Now she is a neighbor. yep, moved in in May. > > But the drop-in, ann you are totally fine to not want that. It is also a > liability thing, and I explain that to folks, and they get it. I include > the term 'we are not unfriendly...........' and may go from there to > 'it's like some of us showing up and poking around in your yard/house.' > > I think our website included the info that folks can schedule a visit on > an Open House Day. A monthly open house day. If that doesn't work-- it > often does not for out-of-town-folks-- we get an email from our contact > neighbor, asking if someone is available to squire these folks around; > someone often enjoys doing it. > > I think the paragraph below is brilliant: > 5. Try to remember that each community has a life of its own. The > day and hour that?s convenient for you to visit may find me and/or the > community otherwise engaged: celebrating an important event, in the middle > of a serious work day or memorializing someone's passing. > > thank you for that, > Ruth > Cantines Island > Saugerties, where we are expecting cousins from Takoma Park this afternoon > PS, adding different 'subject' line, might help when someone searches > archives > hope you do not mind > Ruth > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: > http://www.cohousing.org/cohousing-L/ > > >
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unexpected guests unscheduled tours was What is the Etiquette? Ruth J Hirsch, August 5 2015
- Re: unexpected guests unscheduled tours was What is the Etiquette? Nancy Baughman Csuti, August 6 2015
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Re: unexpected guests unscheduled tours was What is the Etiquette? Sharon Villines, August 6 2015
- Re: unexpected guests unscheduled tours was What is the Etiquette? Diana Carroll, August 6 2015
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