Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Records Checks for Cohousing Group Members

[Muriel Kranowski (murielk]

Sharon is so right that you can't hope to screen out inconsiderate or
selfish people. I'm not sure if that means we should throw up our hands and
not do any screening, or that we should be aware of the limitations of any
such attempts while seeing if there are ways to protect ourselves from
gross harm.

On Wed, May 27, 2020 at 2:56 PM Sharon Villines via Cohousing-L <
cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> wrote:

> > On May 27, 2020, at 2:12 PM, Allison Tom <allisonrtom [at] gmail.com> wrote:
> >
> > I think that
> > it is wise to refrain from a blithe assumption that "bad things can't
> > happen in cohousing.” l
>
> I didn’t mean to suggest this, only that voting people in or out is not a
> good practice either.
>
> As well, I suspect many things that are irritants in cohousing are not
> found in background checks. Dumping person equipment and storage units in
> common spaces “temporarily”. Telling guests to just park in any empty
> space. Planning a group dinner of outsiders without putting it on the
> calendar. Planning parties during times when there are usually community
> celebrations and not clearing it with anyone. Putting friends in the
> guestrooms without making reservations. Always having to work on workdays.
> Being too busy to take on any tasks, or playing dumb: "How could I possibly
> do that.”
>
> Those are the things that will create unhappiness everyday that a
> background check won’t pick up.
>
> Sharon
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> Sharon Villines
> Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
> http://www.takomavillage.org
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