Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Records Checks for Cohousing Group Members

[Allison Tom (allisonrtom]

I'm not talking about obnoxious behaviour but truly harmful, abusive,
behaviour.

On Wed, May 27, 2020 at 12:11 PM Muriel Kranowski <murielk [at] vt.edu> wrote:

> Sharon is so right that you can't hope to screen out inconsiderate or
> selfish people. I'm not sure if that means we should throw up our hands and
> not do any screening, or that we should be aware of the limitations of any
> such attempts while seeing if there are ways to protect ourselves from
> gross harm.
>
> On Wed, May 27, 2020 at 2:56 PM Sharon Villines via Cohousing-L <
> cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> wrote:
>
> > > On May 27, 2020, at 2:12 PM, Allison Tom <allisonrtom [at] gmail.com>
> wrote:
> > >
> > > I think that
> > > it is wise to refrain from a blithe assumption that "bad things can't
> > > happen in cohousing.” l
> >
> > I didn’t mean to suggest this, only that voting people in or out is not a
> > good practice either.
> >
> > As well, I suspect many things that are irritants in cohousing are not
> > found in background checks. Dumping person equipment and storage units in
> > common spaces “temporarily”. Telling guests to just park in any empty
> > space. Planning a group dinner of outsiders without putting it on the
> > calendar. Planning parties during times when there are usually community
> > celebrations and not clearing it with anyone. Putting friends in the
> > guestrooms without making reservations. Always having to work on
> workdays.
> > Being too busy to take on any tasks, or playing dumb: "How could I
> possibly
> > do that.”
> >
> > Those are the things that will create unhappiness everyday that a
> > background check won’t pick up.
> >
> > Sharon
> > ----
> > Sharon Villines
> > Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC
> > http://www.takomavillage.org
> >
> >
> >
> >
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