|Re: What do you want to talk about?||<– Date –> <– Thread –>|
|From: Sharon Villines (sharonsharonvillines.com)|
|Date: Mon, 17 May 2021 12:42:51 -0700 (PDT)|
> On May 17, 2021, at 9:12 AM, Martie Weatherly <mhweatherly [at] > earthlink.net> wrote: > > We knew it was going to be challenging to bring in new people but it is more > challenging than we thought. [snip] What seems to us to be missing is the > level of trust we had for each other when we started. That is still present > in the pioneers toward each other but not in the general community. We are > more divisive on topics than we were. People are more wedded to their point > of view. I couldn’t have said it better. I think it is also a generational element. Those who began forming Takoma Village in 1998 had or were participating in the after glow of the social change movements of the 19070s and 1980s. There was a fundamental belief that organizations should be non-hierarchical, communications all inclusive, and decisions considered by asking what kind of society would this practice, rule, or decision create? It was also all for one and one for all. We had a city program that offered low income loans and down-payments for new DC home owners. Before we could move forward, everyone applying for that grant had to have their applications in. One person was just not understanding this and delaying us all. I objected and said look, this is unreasonable. It’s been so many weeks and we are still waiting on one person. The facilitator said, well we just aren’t all there yet. And then worked out a plan to help that one person be caught up by the end of the week. No one asks what kind of society would this practice, rule, or decision create anymore. It’s not that everyone did before but that there were enough people and such strong beliefs that it was the main drift of things. Now, I feel like I’m fighting the belief that hierarchies are the adult way to do things. I’ve heard “that’s not standard practice” or “this is the professional way” more in the last 2 years than I have in the last 60. The people are wonderful and concerned and kind human beings who have stepped up community activities 100% if not more. They are incredibly responsible and contributing. But the tone is different when it comes to inclusiveness — to err on the side of over communicating is not acceptable. Only the people involved with this need to know about it. No one should be involved in a team decision except the team. The organizational diagram is important and newer people were very concerned that we really didn’t have one. I have twice heard the first question in resolving a problem to be "What should the rules be?" In the beginning many members were more likely to be extreme in the other direction—no rules—ever. “Guidelines if they are optional.” It’s not that all the founders discussed all the social issues, they were just more real somehow than they are now. We’ve always had military and government people, lawyers, etc., but now that trend is stronger. The units are more expensive so only households with 2 professional incomes or a house that was just sold can afford them. And thinking about continuing the afford them doesn’t encourage radical thinking. I’ve become the person who is most resisting organization rather than the most persistent one talking about it. That’s extreme but I do find myself fantasizing about jack-in-the-boxes that jump out in the middle of meetings. I was the one who objected to having birthday parties in the middle of meetings because the meeting never got back on track. Maybe we need a streaker every month or so. (Remember those?) Some chaos to create some energy. We are so organized that Covid didn’t cause a moment of panic or confusion or melt-down. It changed many, many things, but immediately a team formed to study and establish accepted practices that everyone observed. In almost 80 people we’ve had no contamination. So my concern is in the direction of how do we discuss the positive uses of hierarchies but also understand the non-creative mindset and discrimination they produce and support? And then I get tired. Remember the woman in the Women’s March with the sign that said, “I can’t believe that I’m still protesting this same old sh**.” It’s not quite that bad but starting those discussions over again isn’t as exciting now as it was then. And I really don’t think the new people are any less aware of their emotions or caring for others. They just have a different worldview. Sharon ---- Sharon Villines, Washington DC "Behavior is determined by the prevailing form of decision making." Gerard Endenburg
- Re: What do you want to talk about?, (continued)
- Re: What do you want to talk about? Ann Lehman, May 11 2021
- Re: What do you want to talk about? Martie Weatherly, May 17 2021
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