Re: Cohousing-L Digest, Vol 212, Issue 8 | <– Date –> <– Thread –> |
From: Jack & Carolyn Salmon (2salmonearthlink.net) | |
Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 10:43:13 -0700 (PDT) |
> On Sep 6, 2021, at 9:52 AM, cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org wrote: > > Send Cohousing-L mailing list submissions to > cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > > To subscribe or unsubscribe via the World Wide Web, visit > https://lists.cohousing.org/mailman/listinfo/cohousing-l > or, via email, send a message with subject or body 'help' to > cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org > > You can reach the person managing the list at > cohousing-l-owner [at] cohousing.org > > When replying, please edit your Subject line so it is more specific > than "Re: Contents of Cohousing-L digest..." > > > Today's Topics: > > 1. Re: resource for facilitating meetings (Nancy Morehouse) > 2. Daily check ins? (Nancy Morehouse) > 3. Re: Daily check ins? (Sharon Villines) > 4. Re: Daily check ins? (Ted J Rau) > 5. Inappropriate Behavior (Zev Paiss) > 6. Re: Inappropriate Behavior (Chris Hansen) > 7. Re: Inappropriate Behavior (Sharon Villines) > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > ----------------------------- > > Message: 2 > Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 11:46:07 -0400 > From: Nancy Morehouse <nmorehouse [at] aol.com> > To: Cohousing-L [at] cohousing.org > Subject: [C-L]_ Daily check ins? > Message-ID: <D2463141-2106-43C8-B947-616BEB9A3588 [at] aol.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii > > Our Welfare Team is trying to figure out how to standardize daily check in. > > I live in Wolf Creek Lodge, an adult co-housing community community. This > summer we have experienced acute life threatening emergencies for 2 single > members. They were discovered just by chance and survived but we are > concerned that someone could die in their home without being able to let > someone know they were in trouble. > > We have held a Community discussion in hopes that we could get some ideas how > to do this. Instead we got a variety of opinions: Some singles were already > checking in with another member daily; some were interested in establishing a > system but had no ideas how to do this; some were opposed to having a regular > check in. But there were no innovative ideas about systemic regular check > ins. > > How does your community handle this issue? > > Nancy Morehouse > cell and text 540-230-5367 We have a buddy system—everyone has a buddy. The buddy doesn't have to be a best friend, but being an ‘in-sight neighbor helps. Depending on the physical layout of your community, it can be very easy or very difficult to keep an eye out for our neighbors…I can see 5 neighbors’ front doors from my kitchen window and if I haven’t seen someone for a day…I’ll knock on the door or ask another neighbor about them. In our town, folks who know they have life-threatening health challenges can get an electronic call ‘button’ that connects to the local first responders. They can talk to each other and appropriate help sent. Carolyn > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 3 > Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 12:06:29 -0400 > From: Sharon Villines <sharon [at] sharonvillines.com> > To: Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> > Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Daily check ins? > Message-ID: <04483115-4BFA-4AC6-A92D-621E8853526B [at] sharonvillines.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset=utf-8 > >> On Sep 6, 2021, at 11:46 AM, Nancy Morehouse via Cohousing-L <cohousing-l >> [at] cohousing.org> wrote: > >> How does your community handle this issue? > > Our community doesn?t do this as whole but individuals do check in with other > individuals. They are personal arrangements so they are very individual. > > From a friend in living in a Kendal community, one of several reasons > everyone is required to eat one meal a day in the dining room (or have a meal > delivered) is that it is at least one check a day on whether someone is up > and about. > > One practice in a section of units that opened on a common hallway was that > each resident put a ceramic or wood sculpture outside their door each morning > when they woke up. If all the sculptures were out by 9, they took them all > in. If one wasn?t, someone would knock on their door to check. > > It was effective and developed the habit of checking in everyday. Not just > checkin on someone else but checking one?s self in. Waving your flag. > > Sharon > ---- > Sharon Villines > Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC > http://www.takomavillage.org > > > > > > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 4 > Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 12:19:49 -0400 > From: Ted J Rau <ted [at] sociocracyforall.org> > To: cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org > Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Daily check ins? > Message-ID: > <CAH0S9z4qLBtekqw_35BAPMGTuGe2FkV78AtLfqOD83ujw4H_Vw [at] > mail.gmail.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="UTF-8" > > We have individual checkins too. I often wondered about formalizing it so > we can be sure no one falls through the cracks. I?d love to hear what you > come up with. > > During the first 6 months of the pandemic, we formed pods of adjacent > houses and made sure to hear from each other in the pod - first about > daily, then every few days. > Some pods are still meeting actually. > > Ted > > On Mon, Sep 6, 2021 at 12:06 PM Sharon Villines via Cohousing-L < > cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> wrote: > > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 5 > Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 16:37:11 +0000 > From: Zev Paiss <zevpaiss [at] gmail.com> > To: "cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org" <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> > Subject: [C-L]_ Inappropriate Behavior > Message-ID: > <SN1PR20MB20934E5B7FF9D542E2A70223F2D29 [at] > SN1PR20MB2093.namprd20.prod.outlook.com> > > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii" > > I submitted a posting last week under the heading of changing Cohousing norms > and only received one private massage. > > Let me be more specific. Do you feel that any of the actions listed below > would be considered inappropriate behavior in your Cohousing community? > > Asking to borrow a car for an important local trip. > > Asking question of neighbors pertaining to their health, work, community > involvement or their family. > > Mentioning to community members about their lack of participation around > tasks they have chosen or assigned. > > Responding to email post that may not be directed to you but that you have > information about. > > I look forward to your responses. > > Zev Paiss > Boulder, CO > 720-925-5161 > > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 6 > Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 12:47:31 -0400 > From: Chris Hansen <itschrishansen [at] gmail.com> > To: Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> > Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Inappropriate Behavior > Message-ID: > <CAJD0Ydrp0KrzO_LO3CHaCxLzQjUd0+768N73+OFzd_y7dL2jXw [at] > mail.gmail.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset="UTF-8" > > No- most of those happen pretty frequently, but it does depend on both the > norms in your community, and the personal relationship between the > communicator and whomever is responding (or reacting, as the case may be) > The one that I think needs to be dealt with carefully (and there will be > others in this group who can speak eloquently to this) is mentioning to > community members about their lack of participation around tasks they have > chosen or assigned. Doing so in a way that can be heard must be in the > realms of 'black belt' in the martial art of CoHousing Communications. If > anyone here has effective ways of doing this that can be heard, let's talk > about this in a separate thread! > Cheers! > Chris > > > On Mon, 6 Sept 2021 at 12:37, Zev Paiss <zevpaiss [at] gmail.com> wrote: > >> I submitted a posting last week under the heading of changing Cohousing >> norms and only received one private massage. >> >> Let me be more specific. Do you feel that any of the actions listed below >> would be considered inappropriate behavior in your Cohousing community? >> >> Asking to borrow a car for an important local trip. >> >> Asking question of neighbors pertaining to their health, work, community >> involvement or their family. >> >> Mentioning to community members about their lack of participation around >> tasks they have chosen or assigned. >> >> Responding to email post that may not be directed to you but that you have >> information about. >> >> I look forward to your responses. >> >> Zev Paiss >> Boulder, CO >> 720-925-5161 >> _________________________________________________________________ >> Cohousing-L mailing list -- Unsubscribe, archives and other info at: >> http://L.cohousing.org/info >> >> >> >> > > -- > Chris Hansen > 32 East Village Drive > Burlington > Vermont 05401 > USA > > Ph 603 3988730 > > > ------------------------------ > > Message: 7 > Date: Mon, 6 Sep 2021 12:52:00 -0400 > From: Sharon Villines <sharon [at] sharonvillines.com> > To: Cohousing-L <cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> > Subject: Re: [C-L]_ Inappropriate Behavior > Message-ID: <23C6AD8C-0F36-48B0-B31E-80F0A736DE9D [at] sharonvillines.com> > Content-Type: text/plain; charset=us-ascii > >> On Sep 6, 2021, at 12:37 PM, Zev Paiss <zevpaiss [at] gmail.com> wrote: >> >> Do you feel that any of the actions listed below would be considered >> inappropriate behavior in your Cohousing community? >> >> Asking to borrow a car for an important local trip. >> Asking question of neighbors pertaining to their health, work, community >> involvement or their family. >> Mentioning to community members about their lack of participation around >> tasks they have chosen or assigned. >> Responding to email post that may not be directed to you but that you have >> information about. > > My expectation is that all of these would happen everyday. I might not do all > of these equally with everyone in the community but someone else would. They > are common everyday happenings. > > Sharon > ---- > Sharon Villines > Takoma Village Cohousing, Washington DC > http://www.takomavillage.org > > Any of these are g
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