Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Concerns Over Individual Contact with External Professional

[Ruby Reay (rurubux]

Hello,

This sounds challenging. One simple option would be to establish the authorized 
contact persons for the group and let the builder know that if anyone else 
contacts them to refer to those contacts. That might remove a bit of 
"friendliness" but process clarity could help.

Ruby
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Hello,

What would you suggest is the best response to someone in your group who
refuses to take on committee leadership or other significant positions
within the committee, but who quietly communicates separately with the
builder?

The individual claims the conversations are innocent and had "nothing to do
with the group," and perhaps they are right.  But however innocent, the
concern is intent to develop a backchannel relationship where they can
influence in the background without working within the committee and
through the consensus process.

Do you believe that person's behavior undermines the sociocratic process or
building project management?  How would you respond and handle this?

During orientation, they were told there can be no separate contact between
individual members and the builder outside of committee access.
In the coming year, some of the leadership of the committees may well talk
to the developer separately-- as representatives of the committee and after
the committee collectively agrees to something.

What should be the response to this individual?

And if this person is not yet a long-term member of the group, would you
choose for them to be?  Does this behavior mean they will backchannel in
the future?

Thank you
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