Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Experience with mediators?

[Anne Geraghty (abgwalks]

Hi Alan
What is the Myers Briggs game that you use?
Anne Geraghty
Washington Commons, West Sacramento

On Wed, Jan 8, 2025 at 4:16 AM Alan O'Hashi via Cohousing-L <
cohousing-l [at] cohousing.org> wrote:

> Sounds like your two members need NV therapy. You’re lucky you discovered
> your problem early. At my place we’ve had ongoing power and control issues
> involving a few people that festered to the point that members felt unsafe
> and participation dropped.
>
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> We convened a series of sharing circles after one blow up late last year
> which in my view have had limited utility on the whole, but a few of the
> problem people have recognized their foibles and taking personal action.
> Generally speaking, people don’t like to be called on their sh!t,
> especially people who have gone through life being in control. That doesn’t
> work in a consensus community.
>
>
> My suggestion to burning souls is to be very precise about your community
> story so you’ll attract the people you want. you’re only seeking 30 or so
> households, not 300. The only time a community can self select members is
> upon formation. My other suggestion is to get to know people early in the
> process while folks are relative strangers.
>
>
> Most everyone will get along at a high level - book reading, taking walks,
> going to coffee. In cohousing residents are part of a team and not a bunch
> of individuals who have to share leadership and power and not hoard it like
> in the outside world.
>
>
> i use a Myers Briggs game. Writing this is a reminder that i should dust
> that exercise off since my place has a few new people.
>
>
> Good luck helping to reimagine Superman’s American Way!
>
>
> thx
>
>
> alan o
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> > On Jan 8, 2025, at 4:16 AM, cohousing-l-request [at] cohousing.org wrote:
> >
> > [C-L]_ Experience with mediators?
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