Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Respectability & poly-whatever [FWD]

[Fred H Olson WB0YQM (fholson]

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Mike wrote:

> I remember
>him saying that there were fewer divorces than in society at large, and even
>when a couple split up, the estranged spouse stayed in the community and kept
>parenting the children.

One very large advantage of cooperative housing is that you have so 
many more pathways for relationships, and this reduces a huge burden on 
a couple. These relationships do not have to involve sexuality to be 
successful.  For example, one member of a couple likes to go to movies 
on a Friday night, the other member wants to go out a dance. In a 
traditional setting, one sacrifices their needs for the other.  In a 
cooperative housing setup each can easily meet their interests with 
other people other than their partner.  This may seem trival, it is 
really large when you live it.  I would suspect that having this sort 
of arrangement is a real help to couples relationships and of course if 
you have people you can share your intimate feelings and troubles about 
your partner with, this sort of counselling helps as well.  Mutual 
support  of individuals from the community is a huge asset of 
cooperative living, and IMHO is how coopertaive living can save our society.

Rob Sandelin
Evangalizing again