Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: Respectability & poly-whatever [FWD]

[Fred H Olson WB0YQM (fholson]

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> Inside the community:  now, in the 1990's, with so many other aspects to
> learn about living cooperatively, I'd tend to take fewer risks with elaborate
> intimate relationships -- at least until the community is strong and
> resilient.  For now, isn't it enough to nurture deep friendships with your
> fellow community members?  Maybe learn to walk before becoming gymnists??

Hmmm...except, you are sort of discounting those people who are already
polyamourous.  And such people (myself included), I think, might have
an at least slightly greater tendency to be interested in communitarian
types of living.

> Part of keeping one's life simple is having clear relationships.  In 1995
> America, it seems that the cultural default is defined as I have sex with my
> (current) partner and otherwise, I have close non-sexual relationships.
>  Rudimentary and simplistic, but pretty clear easy to follow.

Again, it is not "clear and easy to follow" for a person whose "heart is
polyamorous" (for lack of a better way to phrase it).

Barbara