Cohousing-L Mailing List: UU/polyamory/sex, egads

[Joaniblank (Joaniblank]

I apparently started all this with my mention of UU principles. DIdn't have a
clue what I was starting. And I didn't even say anything about sex (though I
am the person on this list most likely to do so, I guess)!  I'm ready to try
again to generalize this topic (as I did a few posts ago) to some talk about
how it gets decided which of the of the issues normally reseved to the
privacy of a household in the outside world, might be opened up to others in
the community or to the whole community. And how far does the openness
extend.

To change course away from sexuality for a bit, does anyone what to talk
about how differing houlsehold or individual attitudes about money within a
community affect how we function together? 

For example, it has pained me to hear that some people within cohousing
groups--maybe even some whole groups--are reluctant to pay their consultants,
 architects, designers or even contractors the professionals' usual and
customary fees. Are some assuming that because *our* professionals are true
believers in cohousing, they should work for greatly reduced fees, or receive
only partial payment, or be the very last people to be paid when money is
short.

Another example: What are we to do with our judgements about others'
attitudes toward money that directly affect the common good. This can be
problematic when significant proportions of the group seem too extravagent OR
too frugal to the others, particularly when the public position they take
contrasts to the way  we know they function economically in their own
household.