Cohousing-L Mailing List: Re: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness

[dwn2erth (dwn2erth]

--       liz taylor "roman bitner"  truly sorry you feel so strongly... I too 
have strong opinions especially about insular, closed minded groups who
reject criticism and self examination so violently  and, I feel the need
to express my opinions especially when I feel that this group appears to
be  the more enlightened of our future (and current) real estate
investors. this is not a just inflammatory and,by the way,  i can handle
the repercussions, and in fact, attend numerous, public political meetings
and events and am quite clear in my views.. what repercussions do you
suggest... "Shunning" perhaps..
        .truly, the only reason I have entered this discussion has been in the
hope that some of you will think about what i am saying about land use and
the real impacts of our actions. I certainly have nothing to gain by
pissing people like yourself off.. except perhaps being shunned.. 
>dwn2erth [at] pics.com

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> From: Roman Bitner <lilbert [at] concentric.net>
> Subject: Re: co-housing v.s. old-fashioned neighborliness
> Date: Saturday, May 16, 1998 1:45 PM
> 
> dwn2erth wrote:
>  I am finding it  most
> > interesting that my arguments are attempting to remain out of the
personal
> > arena and yet a fair percentage of the responses seem to be of a
personal
> > nature.. not really discussing the issues raised ... although they do
seem
> > to have touched a nerve?   hmmm...
> > >dwn2erth [at] pics.com
> My experience with people like you is that you like to go to a list or
> discussion board and stir things up, regardless of what the topic. You
> write things of an inflammatory nature, then watch with glee while the
> sparks fly. Then when people call you on your behavior, we are being
> "personal" and overreacting. You really like the internet because it
> allows you to behave as you wish with no repercussions. When somebody
> responds with honesty and integrity, you are incapable of doing so in
> kind, and resort to attempts to reflect your shame back on them with
> comments like "must have touched a nerve". The only way to discuss
> issues to your satisfaction would be to slavishly agree with you so that
> you could move on to some other unsuspecting group to annoy. I will no
> longer reply to your childish notes, and encourage others to do the
> same.
> Liz