Cohousing-L Mailing List: remedies for yelling arguments

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Dear All,

We at Trillium Hollow in Portland are trying to a bunch of community =
building things to increase camaraderie and good communication skills.  =
MEANWHILE, what to do when people have loud angry yelling name calling =
swearing arguments in front of all, and ignore requests to take it =
inside?  We have been advised not to sweep it under the rug.  I agree, =
but how to approach these people?  Please don't say sharing circles, =
these haven't been particularly helpful in the past - and those involved =
don't always show up.

This is of particular concern to parents of young children who point out =
quite rightly that it is negative modeling for their children, and =
children can't get away with this kind of behavior.

Suggestions???

Thanks,

Vicky Leary

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trying to a bunch of community building things to increase camaraderie =
and good=20
communication skills.&nbsp; MEANWHILE, what to do when people have loud =
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yelling name calling swearing arguments in front of all, and ignore =
requests to=20
take it inside?&nbsp; We have been advised not to sweep it under the =
rug.&nbsp;=20
I agree, but how to approach these people?&nbsp; Please don't say =
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circles, these haven't been particularly helpful in the past - and those =

involved don't always show up.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000 face=3DArial size=3D2>This is of particular =
concern to=20
parents of young children who point out quite rightly that it is =
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modeling for their children, and children can't get away with this kind =
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behavior.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT color=3D#000000 face=3DArial size=3D2>Thanks,</FONT></DIV>
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remedies for yelling arguments	<– Date –> <– Thread –>
From: Victoria (victoriatrillium-hollow.org)
Date: Wed, 25 Aug 1999 13:06:06 -0600 (MDT)